5 & 6 year old don’t go sleep on their own or sleep through the night. At wits end.

[passmethewineplease]

My children (5 & 6) have to have me and their dad in bed with them to get them to sleep, this can take ages and takes up any downtime me and DP have.

Do I just need to be tough and stick to my guns? It started because when they were little the other one used to wake the other frequently so we settled them to save the other from being disturbed. I should add my son is currently under community paediatricians/SALT for developmental delay/ASD/ADHD. My daughter whilst not academically behind shows the same ADHD traits as her brother. They are draining us. We were due an appointment last month but with Covid19 they cancelled us. I cried.

We are knackered. They also do not stay asleep. We’ve had years of this and I’m just flat out done. I’m so envious of people that can pop their child to bed at 7 walk away and leave them to sleep.

Please has anyone been there and got through it?

And now I’ve pre warned him he has not stopped crying for the past 20 minutes.

Yes it’s a hare Work isn’t it! Mine are 13 months apart and slept in the bed with me (I was a single parent) until They were 4&5 and then I moved in with my now husband. They are now 7&8 and have finally started sleeping for the past few months! I didn’t have a nights sleep for 8 years but I didn’t like to let them cry themselves to sleep etc. They are not trying to wind you up they are children who are maybe scared, have an over active imagination, have nightmares Etc who knows but I think kids need their parents in bed until they’re ready to sleep alone. I’m probably
In the minority, but my kids are super intelligent, confident, have never been scared of anything and enjoy life. I put it down to then knowing they have someone always there for them day or night. So basically it will end at some point, then you’ll wish you had those cuddles at night again! hang in there, you’re doing the best for them in the long run Xx