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Have just screamed uncontrollably at DS. I'm an arse

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ConnorTraceptive · 12/09/2007 09:44

I'm very tired and not coping with pregnancy too well but that's no excuse.

DS (2) has done nothing but whinge and cry and throw a strop since the minute I walked in his bedroom this morning. I have no idea what is wrong with him but nothing is good enough today.

He asks me for milk then cries and says "no" asks me for cereal then cries and says "no"
Asks me to put on a barney dvd and then 2 minutes later is crying for thomas the sodding tank.

I ended up screaming "What the hell is wrong with you, what do you want from me, just leave me alone"

I feel so guilty but I also still feel like screaming. It's not like this very often and I generally hold it together but feel like I won't get through the day if he's like this all day.

Just need some ideas what I can do with him today to keep us both sane?

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peggotty · 12/09/2007 09:51

GO and meet up with other people. Preferably who have kids too. None of this 'go for a walk in the park' malarkey, just get out to someone else's house - you need other adult company. I am 20 weeks pg with a 2 year old and I KNOW KNOW KNOW how you are feeling. Am frequently to be heard asking my dd to leave me alone... you're only human and he won't remember it.

frumpygrumpy · 12/09/2007 09:53

Fear not! Sounds a bit like 2 hours ago in my house when I screamed like a banshee at my DD1 to put on her bloody shoes for school (she has issues with her shoes every bloody day!!!) I shouted, then realised the front window was open and the entire street would have heard I'm learning to let go. So I shout. At least its not worse than that.

I recommend going out. Go and do anything that he might enjoy. Swim? Bus ride just for the fun of it? Soft play? Park? Duck pond? Go to a cafe, order a huuuge hot chocolate for you both and read. Let him do something he will like that will help coax him out of the mood. Fill the kitchen sink with too much washing up liquid and let him 'wash' dishes. Let him have a bath with you! anything............then..........

........after lunch, put on something he likes on telly and sit with him. Then, its you time. You can read, sleep, MN, pick your nose.

Threadworm · 12/09/2007 09:54

Be kind to yourself: I'm sure you were are upset by the shouting than he is.
Could you go to Tesco and buy a brand new dvd thaw will hold his attention for a while so you can rest? A dvd day won't do him any harm.

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KaySamuels · 12/09/2007 09:55

I agree, don't do anything just you and him. Go to someone's house, or even soft play centre where he will leave you alone for an hour! I have a 2 yr old too and know exactly what you mean.

Oh and if he demands stuff and then changes his mind - tough! Don't give in. I also tend to ignore ds if he is whining, harsh but fair! Try not to feel too bad - tell him you are sorry you shouted, and now you are going to _ and have a lovely day. That way you can start again and turn the morning around.

Nemo2007 · 12/09/2007 09:55

If it makes you feel better I have just screamed at ds[nearly 4] and chased him up the stairs!!

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ConnorTraceptive · 12/09/2007 09:55

Thanks peggoty you're right I need some adult company today.

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frumpygrumpy · 12/09/2007 09:56

meant to say, the idea is for him to be doing something he doesn't normally do. The shock of it will hopefully guarantee the end of the whinge.

Chickhick · 12/09/2007 09:57

They don't call it the terrible two's for nothing. It is a stage, it will pass. Go off to a soft play centre and let him burn off some energy.

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ConnorTraceptive · 12/09/2007 09:59

ooh lots of replies.

Thank you glad i'm not the only one.

He's such a good boy really but he just needs so much activity sometimes and he likes me to be present for most!

Right will get out the house in next thirty minutes and find an activity where he can let off steam.

Thank you for making me feel less like a mother from hell

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OrmIrian · 12/09/2007 10:21

Guess what! So did I. My DS#2 (4) was insisting that we had some cereal with a shark on the box which we manifestly did not. I showed him everything we had and he still insisted there was shark cereal. I'm not at my most relaxed on a school morning anyway and I yelled at him to get out of the kitchen (and pushed him out and shut the door). So stupid, and yes, arsey, but it happens. I calmed down, went to find him, gave him and big hug and said sorry. So did he.

Unfortunate, probably avoidable if you are a saint and 100% perfect, but forgivable. Don't beat yourself up about it. Give him a hug and apologise to him.

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