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Help needed. Pregnant, homeless, where to go!

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dibzylove · 31/03/2020 01:29

So, a bit of back round before I start.
June 2018, I had a breakdown (I have eupd, cptsd, endos and posibiltiy of highworkimg autism although have never been diognosed just told I posbily have via pshyc). At the time I had my then 3 Yr old daughter living with me.
When the breakdown happened I was receiving therapy etc.. At the time I had thought best it was for my little ones best interest to go and stay with her dad while I recovered (he was always in her life so trusted he wanted best for her etc). Since then there has been no end of trouble leading us though court that only finished November gone. Pshcy put breakdown down to fact I'd been working through my u wanted emotion in therapy and that it would pass and it did. That's a story of its own.
Since my breakdown I have ended up homeless and without help. I'd got kicked out of my old house due to rent arrears and even though I was receiving help with rent, altogether I was being paid 840 uc and my rent was 900 alone. I had to eat and pay travel to therapy so arrears mounted. The council could see and would not move me, not even to a bedroom shared house.

Fastforward 2 years. I am currently living in flats rented on Airbnb. My current job is chat admin which I do at 'home' on my laptop. It brings in just enough to eat and pay rent etc ontop of what my universal credit gives me. I'm more mentally stable and I know where I want to go in life.
Here's the hard bit. Although I have the coil in, I am now pregnant. Homeless and pregnant.

I was originally living in Essex. Right next to the London boader which for my 2 bed house was costing 900 a month, on my own. I had to get out. My plan was to find a cheaper area using Airbnb, get myself a forklift job (done my lisence after my breakdown) and get somewhere to live from there. Now, that can't be an option.
My issue is, now I've moved out of my old area and have been in my current Airbnb place for 6 weeks (this can never be permanent), what do I do. I have been moving around since November and have none of my eviction letters anymore.
Do I go back to my old council with proof of pregnancy or do I go to the council of where I am now? Will they help me? What do I say and what is likely to happen

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dibzylove · 31/03/2020 01:30

I probably should have stated that I have no family and friends to stay with.. Hence the Airbnb places. Its just me. This even comes down to giving birth... I may be able to fi d someone but in terms of having somewhere to stay... Nothing...

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dibzylove · 01/04/2020 16:31

Anyone here?

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MyDcAreMarvel · 01/04/2020 16:36

Hi op have you contacted your local council? With your mental health issues and pregnancy you should be classed as vulnerable for emergency accommodation though may well be a hostel. Also contact Shelter and Mind. Sorry you are going through this.

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TitianaTitsling · 01/04/2020 16:36

Where is the father? Are you seeking Cm from him?

TitianaTitsling · 01/04/2020 16:37

Could your counsellor help you seek support?

PanicAtTheDiscLo · 01/04/2020 16:38

Contact the borough council you’re in theyll have ooh too

june2007 · 01/04/2020 16:47

Contact the Council in the borough your in. Also Shelter and mind as mentioned above.

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CandyLeBonBon · 01/04/2020 22:27

I suggest you see your gp and discuss the difficult possibility of a termination op. You are not in a great place mentally or physically to bring a child into the world alone.

wishingforapositiveyear · 01/04/2020 22:37

Are you with the babies dad? Even if your not would he support in any way ?! The problem is the council won't help as they will deem that OP made herself "intentionally homeless" due to rent arrears. Shelter maybe able to advise!

dibzylove · 02/04/2020 00:08

I should have stated before that my mental health is stable now it is more around the housing.
When I last spoke to the council, they stated that if I had been more vulnerable in terms of having children or being discharged from a phsyc ward they would be in a position to help but being a single person with never any admissions I'm on my own. I have been signed off from mentsl health team for a whole now.

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TinkerPony · 02/04/2020 00:16

What about the father of your baby could he offer or assist with accommodation?

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