At absolute breaking point

[Wingingit2019]

Its 4:30am I have been awake more than I have been asleep and this has been the same for almost 2 months.

DS is 5mo and BF to sleep. Will not sleep in cot in the day without hours of crying. Is awake every 1 or of I'm lucky 2 hours at night. DP is a key worker so is not at home with me and the isolation and sleep deprivation is waring me down to tears most days. Do I sleep train? Where do I start? I obviously dont mind feeding at night but this is beyond it. He will not tolerate being rocked/cuddled/shhpatted/stroked to sleep he just screams until I give in and BF.

I am desperate.

My baby had silent reflux and the gaviscon too the edge off but when he was around 4.5 months he went through a sleep regression I’ll never forget. Wouldn’t sleep at all in the day or night and cried constantly, would only sleep while I held him and for a very short amount of time.

For us the only thing that did it was implementing a nighttime routine so we started using a white noise machine while baby slept and, mostly importantly, a security blanket/comforter (removed once baby was asleep). He didn’t need the soother because he would suck the comforter instead. Think we started using sleeping bags then too. I think I was actually bothering him with all the measures trying to help him sleep when he needed the tools to be able to do it alone.

@Wingingit2019 he loved the bottle from the first. He was like a different baby and fed happily at set intervals and didn’t need a soother. For naps I would put him to bed at the same time every day whether he slept or not and just get on with stuff, I knew he was safe. He liked loud noises so the vacuum etc didn’t bother him. He gave up all daytime sleep by 12 months though always slept well at night.

Try a bottle and formula, it made a huge difference. My other DC breastfed until 13 months but it just didn’t work for him and you need to do what works.