Feeling guilty

[ChelseaCat]

A little while ago I fell up the stairs carrying my 11 week old. He stayed in my arms as I fell And didn’t make contact with the floor, but we both went with quite a bang. There were the inevitable tears from both of us, but he seems absolutely fine now he’s stopped crying (thank goodness for milk!),

I just feel so guilty that I wasn’t paying more attention to what I was doing and because he could have been seriously hurt. I know I’m not the first person this will have happened to but it’s my PFB and I can’t bear to think that I hurt or even scared him 😬

Horribly shaken up!!

Aw don't be so hard on yourself, it's horrendous falling on stairs at anytime so when carrying your baby must of been a real shock. How are you both now? You were probably more shook up than baby. Just give lots of kisses and cuddles and you have a strong cup of tea with sugar in for the shock.
My toddler threw a toy full pelt in our baby's face the other day, I fully panicked, the baby just laughed! They are made of stronger stuff than we think. Sending hugs x

Thank you @reelteeth901 We’re both ok, however my guilt remains so LO getting lots of extra cuddles!

Big hugs OP. I know it's easy to say but please try not to feel guilty. You didn't do it on purpose! I fell down the stairs carrying my 1 year old son. Only a few steps thank god or the outcome could have been a lot worse. He broke his little foot :( I can't tell you how much the guilt ate me up as he was in soooo much pain in hospital and then had a cast on but he of course remembers now and is absolutely fine now. Be kind to yourself x

Life as a parent is always full of guilt.
That's what makes you the best parent, your worries are for the best of your child. Take comfort in that but be conscious of it becoming an anxiety- little accidents happen all the time and I'm sure you'll be sharing the memory with your child in years to come.

Sending you a big hug op it’s awful when something happens like this.

I once had come back from the weekly shop and was feeding my son sat on the floor (I had just taken him out of his car seat) he drifted off so I just plonked him in his seat as it was the closest thing to me and so he could sleep and I didn’t strap him in. My sister came over about 10 mins later as we were going to a shopping centre and I was in the kitchen making some breakfast sandwiches and I asked her to bring my son in on the car seat.
She grabbed the handle, which wasn’t locked into place and as she lifted up the seat it shot forward and ejected my son who wasn’t strapped in and he banged his head and legs on the wood flooring 😢😢😢 ended up with an overnight stay in hospital and lots of tears from myself my boy and my sister. No one blamed each other we both blamed ourselves individually, me for not strapping him in and her for not checking the handle was in place but it was no ones fault it was an accident and tbh careless on my part as I’m his mum and should of ensured he was safe in the seat as he’s my responsibility. There were so many tears the doctor ended up having a cry with us too.

Sometimes these things happen and once it has happened you can’t go back in time to strap them in or watch what you are doing to prevent the accident happening. But it’s a horrible
Shocking lesson learned and since it happened I check the handle is locked and I NEVER put him in a seat/chair without being strapped him even for a second.

Don’t beat yourself up you sound like a lovely mum. It will take a bit of time to get over it so sending you and

Xx

I did that once with ds, it was horribly scary. The important point though is that you both ok. You didn't do it on purpose, and everyone makes mistakes, we all hurt our kids by accident sometimes.

Thank you for all being so sweet