@SnowWhite26 I don't because I have a 4yo with complex medical needs I had to quit and now we have 3 month old twins. It was obvious when my son was born oif us was giving up work and we both wanted that to be me. He had the financial burden but we get support with benefits and all the bills etc are in my name for which he gives me a share then he keeps his spending money. Works for us.
But that doesn't mean he be so happy if I was giving up 2 days with free chidk care because I didn't want to work any more.
Look into WHAT is making you stressed.
Is it the job? If working in childcare is too stressful then you need to look for other work for similar hours.
Is it that even in the days you work you're doing all the drop offs, dinner, cleaning etc? Does he do anything to help on those two days? If not then you need a rota or an agreement in chores. If he refuses to help in those two days then I'd go back to the looking at giving up work argument because he isn't facilitating you working.
You say your wages pay for extras, what extras are those? And would you all miss them? You say you can spend better to compensate so why aren't you already? Presumably because losing thst money will cause a reduction in what you can do, spend, enjoy etc.
Is your marriage otherwise happy, do you feel supported and respected?
He can't make you work but how would you feel if he came I nand said he wanted to drop two days at work to be with the babies, or even thst he had already?