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Advice on in-laws

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Mummytoboys02 · 14/03/2020 20:43

So I’m in a really tough situation, I have never posted anything before but see how great the advice is and hoped You could tell me I’m not going insane.

I have known my partners mum longer then I have been with him. I worked with her for years and me partner 3 years. We got introduced by his mum and quickly I fell pregnant after 3 months with my DS1. Me and my partner had a rocky start a lot of trust issues, but we managed through. My family and his was against both of us being together. His mum would refuse to let me in the house refused to even acknowledge me even when I was in labour and she walked past and ignored me! But we then spoke after baby was born and I tried to get over everything that went on. We then got on well and she came over and see me and my son. She always insisted she would have him over night but I wasn’t ready for anyone to take my son yet. Then me and my partner found out I was pregnant again with ds2 which was a happy time for a while, till my mil asked to have my son and I said not tonight we will arrange another night. Well she hasn’t spoken to me for 6 months! In that time I have actually had my second son by emergency c section. My partner walked out 5 days before Christmas and She demanded to see my dc1 on Christmas Day but I was actually in labour (he was born on Christmas). She has not seen my ds2 yet and askes my partner if you bring the children in and she ( meaning me) can wait in the car. She doesn’t want anything to do with me. She is now threatening court proceedings with my partner and me. But I haven’t actually refused she hasn’t asked me to see the children. I don’t feel as if my children should be apart of this. My partner doesn’t defend our family at all. My sons are 2 year and 3 months old. It’s taking its toll on me now. There’s an event coming up with his family and me and the children are not invited. I’m at my Whits end and I don’t know what else to do. I tried asking to talk to her and she refuses saying she hates me.
Am I wrong in thinking she’s being out of line?

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bank100 · 14/03/2020 20:58

The children absolutely shouldn't be a part of this. She's been really immature in her approach. She sounds spiteful and a little unhinged.
Document everything. Every insult or volatile behaviour. Let her take you to court if she wishes, chances are she won't bother. If she does you can suggest supervised visits after some mediation.

EmotionalFlood · 14/03/2020 21:43

Court proceedings? For what? Hate to break it to her but grandparents have ZERO rights, this is coming from someone raised by grandparents... if she doesn't want or accept you in her life she doesn't get your children, simple. My MIL is a nutter and this is something she'd do but luckily my partner supports me and knows how loopy she is. Stay strong OP and discus this with our DP he needs to get the family unit back together Thanks stay strong Thanks

Mummytoboys02 · 15/03/2020 23:11

Thank you, my partner never came home from the event so I know he has taken there side. I feel so lost! But both your messages are reassuring for me.

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Gobbycop · 16/03/2020 03:33

Court proceedings 😂

Just tell her to get fucked and enjoy being a mum to your kids.

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