Age appropriate nudeness

[Starbuck8419]

Ok so, my daughter is coming up to five. She’s our only one so we aren’t exactly pros at this.
My husband is very hands on and always has been, changing nappies, getting her dressed etc.

She still has a bath with me every night (hops in just before I get out) and we’ve always been a fairly open household.
I came from parents who constantly told me I was fat or “porky” was the exact words so I’ve never wanted to instill any fear or negativity towards her own body.
My husband and i both get dressed in front of her and like any normal kid, she will run around butt naked in front of us both when she fancies it 😊

The other week, she was in our room and made an “urgh” sound when my husband got undressed so he covered up. She told him to get changed in her bedroom and we both promptly told her this was our room and if she didn’t like it, she could leave till he was done. Since then he always warns her so she can choose to leave or not.

In a few conversations I’ve had with people some of them look at me like I’m insane. They think him getting her dry after a bath at her age etc is really inappropriate.

I personally disagree but maybe I’m wrong. Would love to get peoples opinions on it

Huh? He's her dad, it certainly shouldn't be inappropriate! They have issues if they have a problem with it.

Its not inappropriate.

Thank you. This is my thought too but sometimes you can start to doubt yourself 😂

It's not inappropriate to parent your child- while she needs help washing and drying, then either mum or dad can do it.

In terms of his nakedness, she needs to know if she hangs out in your room then you'll be changing there.

It's definitely not in appropriate. What would a single dad do? Parent his girls with his eyes closed?

What on earth is inappropriate about a dad drying his child after a bath? The people making these comments are the inappropriate ones.

She's only five, there's nothing wrong with her dad drying her after a bath. She'll soon let you both know when she wants privacy, bed led by her on this issue.

My DH dried our DD until she started doing it herself, which just happened naturally over time. Much older than 5.

The only people who think that's inappropriate are people who have their own issues.

Not inappropriate for him to bath or dry her.

I think her shouting of ‘urgh’ might mean it’s a good time to be a little more prudent though.

All agreed thankfully

My dad was in the shower the other day and I walked into the bathroom to get something. I often pop into the bathroom for a chat with my mum if she’s in the bath. I’m 27 and don’t even live with my parents! It’s not weird unless you make it weird. Obviously if she makes it clear she isn’t comfortable with it, be led by DD but I’d be interested to know where she’s getting those ideas from.

My dad was in the shower the other day and I walked into the bathroom to get something.

Sorry but as an adult it is weird.

It's definitely not inappropriate at 5.

I think when older, within the immediate family it really depends on the family. Some are much more relaxed than others, and either way is fine as long as all involved are happy with it.

FWIW I prefer not to be naked in front of my teenage sons, though it would not be end of world if they came in without knocking. My teenage sons, however, think nothing of coming in to ask me where their uniform is while they are completely starkers...

No it's not if neither of them are bothered.

Sorry but as an adult it is weird.
What makes it weirder than being a child? I wasn’t going out of my way to look at him and averted my gaze but I equally didn’t do theatrical eye covering. I needed something for the baby urgently so I went in and got it. I have yet to be scarred by the sight of an adult male body performing normal daily routines.

Not inappropriate for him to dry her

However it was at about this age that I remember noticing my dad was 'different' to my mum. I started asking questions, as your daughter will too.

I have fond memories of being young (maybe 3-7) and being towelled dry on my dad’s lap after a bath. We played a “parcel game” where I got wrapped up in the towel and he’d “wonder what the post office had sent him” with a full routine of “it’s got knobbly knees!” “It’s got ears” “it’s got a nose!” Etc. Lovely, a precious memory, and loads of fun. Nothing inappropriate about it - be led by her. :)