Remove child from nursery over virus fears?

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I am a carer for my mother who had respiratory problems - my father has too along with other complex medical problems. He nearly died last year. They are frail and vulnerable.

My 3 yo daughter has brought six colds home since September and made us all ill for such a long time including my nearly one year old baby.

I am very concerned that she will pick up the corona virus and pass it on to my parents who we see several times a week (as I'm carer). She does 1.5 days a week.I want to call nursery and tell them tomorrow that I want to keep her at home til after the Easter holidays but not sure what to do?

I think that's fine to do if you're concerned though I think this situation is likely to go on much longer than just Easter.

Have you thought about if you'd happy for this to be 3-4 months out?

There is nothing stopping you but I’d imagine you’ll have to keep paying until the advice is officially to close all schools & nurseries.. my mum is immuno-compromised on long term steroids and at risk. At the moment, she has said she’s happy to continue looking after our daughter & for her to go to nursery but we are keeping an eye on all the advice!

I personally will choose to send DD to nursery while it’s still open but stop contact with Granny if needed. We fully rely on nursery care. My other halves parents live 5 hours away so they only see DD once every 6 weeks or so, so I don’t see keeping her away from my mum if needed as an issue. Not seeing grandparents regularly is quite normal for us. It won’t be for too long!

That's what I'm worried about - if this goes on for several months. She started last summer and has had so much illness that she has missed a lot of nursery. My baby has only stopped coughing this week - since September!

Her hours are funded now since January. I am concerned they may give our place away if she is away a long time now.

We don't need the nursery care by the way but my husband wants her to keep going as it took a long time for her to settle.

Honestly I think all schools and nurseries will get closed down at some point anyway, which will disrupt her settling.

I’m sorry to be blunt, but if she brings the virus home it could easily kill both your parents.

In Italy the infection rate is so high that they can’t treat everybody - in some areas they’ve decided not to treat people over 60. They have more beds and respirators per thousand people than we do. Reality is your parents may not even be treated if they get ill with this.

So I would definitely keep her at home.

Everybody who can stay home should be doing so now - the better we are at social distancing at this stage, the more we can delay the spread of the virus.

I think that. Need to convince my husband

You really don’t. She’s your child, and they’re your parents. Just tell him she’s not going in for now and mean it. He can disagree, but he can’t overrule you.

I second #8by8

All schools are likely to close in the next week. I work in public health and some of my colleagues are on the forefront of the response, so I get lots of good evidence based advice. Mine are both staying home from Monday. I work for a big Russell Group university and we are closed from Monday as well (online teaching only). If it’s good enough for my students, I feel like it’s important for my dc too.

My dd is 3, we have decided to keep her home from monday. I have asthma and suffered greatly with normal flu and recently had a chest infection which I really struggled to breathe (inhaler 4 x every hour). Plus an 8 month old baby. Just not taking the risk.

If you dont need the nursery for childcare, it's more for socialisation. I would 100% keep her home, especially due to your parents medical issues. The risk is far to great x

Thank you. I have still been worrying about it all. I think they may say she could lose her place if she's off long term as it's a funded place now she's three (apparently they do that if children are off long term) but so be it. My husband is still having to take the tube in to work.

I've stopped mine going to playgroups and other social gatherings for now. Not ideal but better safe than sorry.