I'm struggling a little bit

[Bluebell121]

Hi , before I post this please if anyone's got negative comments please just don't
Comment I don't feel like I can deal with them right now..
I have 2 children ages 1&2 2 year old nearly 3 my 1 year old is getting a little bit mischievous HES biting kicking his sister in the face when she's playing ragging her hair takes her toys off her , my daughter (2) is very sensitive she literally cries and gets angry if someone even looks at her every morning I get so down becuase straight away the screaming fighting smashing toys starts and I have anxiety and depression , ( depression I don't thinks is as bad as it used to be just have down days nothing serious ) on the other hand anxiety is through the roof ! I snap so quick and take it out on the people I love the most ( just moods not anything physical) I'm struggling recently to cope my daughters behaviour has changed too! She started. Anew nursery 5 weeks ago and it's a everyday nursery so bug change from her 3 days nursery before hand , She gets tired after nursery I understand that but since she was younger she's always done this , she can be so so happy then in a split second she will stand and stare at you and throw herself on the floor and carry on and I genuinely ask her what's up? She doesn't answer I picked her from nursery yesterday we got her bike ready to ride home so she ran upto me when I went to pick her up then I'm a split second she was trying to rag her top off and throwing herself on the floor and I really don't no why she does this she's done it since she was 1! People literally stare at me like what the hell? , all this every day is taking a big toll and emotionally getting me down I don't no why there behaviours are like this I've tried everything I have star charts for the (2 year olds and eldest step son 7) I feel like I can't cope some days I have great days honestly it's not always like this but past week this has been everyday I'm on medication for my anxiety I've had it years I literally am so scared that I'll get to the point where I get mentally ill where I don't cope at all. Like o said it's not like this all the time , just this past week , my daughters attitude is discusting I don't have a clue where she has got it from either! Thank you for reading.

It looks (to me) like a lot of it is behaviour she has learned from you.
Some of it will be her picking up on your anxiety / depression / mental health issues.
Some of it is just child behaviour.

You need to be very aware of how you yourself react to situations. They are little sponges and are learning how to react to things from YOU.
You need to learn how your issues affect your children.
And also learn how your children learn / respond best to forms of discipline. Use the one that is most effective with your children. And be consistent. Don't let any incident slide without addressing it.

@BobbyBlueCat impossible I don't show anything infront of my kids for that reason.

@BobbyBlueCat the only way my child listens is if she thinks the police man that she seen in the street and spoke to is going to " tell her off" we seen a police man and she said she liked his car so he came over and said have you been a good girl? She said no straight away so he said police can come tell you if your not been very good for your mummy or daddy , since that she literally had ate all her breakfast(m ( which she never does)

Before the police man I tried everything , taking away her favourite toy , sitting on the step for 1 minute to calm down but she eventually liked that , there's nothing else I can do she doesn't care about anything I do

Heya, I understand how you feel I also have two under 3 at home (2 eldest at school) ive been feeling a lot like you are yourself lately and know how tough it is so be kind to yourself. Is your dd like it with everyone or does she just play you up? Could be the change in nursery? Big changes can affect little ones. If it's just you that she plays up then I'd say she is looking for attention from you (not implying that she doesn't get it from you at all but she may need extra reassurance) I would let her throw her tantrums personally and just ignore it as long as she is safe and not hurting herself and when she calms down just go down to her level and explain that if she is screaming and carrying on then you don't know what's wrong and she needs to talk to you about it and you will listen. If she sees that any negative behaviour is ignored and positive is praised then she may stop the tantrums. Some kids are harder work at that age then others I remember my eldest daughter (9) was a nightmare at that age she used to throw awful tantrums but she got out of it and is now a dream. It will get easier as they get older. I'm sorry I don't have much advice but oodles of sympathy ♥️x

Bluebell, have you spoken to the nursery ? She hasn't been there long, they may have some advice regarding the transition for her.
2/3 year olds can be incredibly challenging. It's when they are learning and pushing boundaries to see just how far they can go. Try and make sure you have plenty of time when doing something with her. If she screams, throws herself on the floor say calmly and firmly "I will talk to you when you stop." Don't engage any further, obviously keep an eye on her but wait. No quick fix I'm afraid it could take an hour, next time slightly less and then less again.
As for people staring at you Sod them.
You can do this 💐

Hey everyone , I have spoke to the nursery and honestly she loves it which is a big change for me as she hated her last nursery cried constantly ! This ones more closer and she can ride her bike which SHES so happy about , she did transition with her friend from old nursery and that she has Nown before nursery and there stuck together like glue so she's always had some confront from him , but she literally just had a melt down because her brother was playing with his toy in a way she didn't want him to , I just said what we're going to do from now on is when you feel upset you need to breath in and out and say I've calmed down now , then continue to play but share and be nice this time , she's asked
To go to the breakfast bar alone and play with her play doh I said that's fine ( SHES a lot more grown up than her age) , Im going through a lot of phases with her atm which I'm hoping there phases ! 1 being she told me her teacher smacked her bum , then told the teacher her dad pushed me over when I fell over a cup.. then told my friend I hurt her becuase she couldn't get past my pram while holding my friends hand I'm so glad my friend witnessed what she says that could cause serious trouble what she comes out with DONT really no what to do to make her feel better or even think better than what she is thankyou for all the support I needed it! Xx