Can't Leave Baby

[thebigthreefive]

DD 8 months is the ultimate PFB. I haven't left her for any length of time yet, I've been to a GP appointment a few weeks ago and a quick trip to the corner shop without her in her whole 8 months.

I need to start preparing to return to work, I've got an invite out to dinner next week, I should probably start leaving her with DH / our family. She's EBF and I've just loved being her whole world, the thought of her crying and me not being there upsets me.

Family are desperate to look after her, she's an absolute delight, SIL even bought us a night away so she could babysit... I brought DD to the fancy spa hotel with us

How can I gain the balls to leave her?

It’s hard but she is old enough now for her to be fine

Have you thought of the logistics of going out? Will you put her to bed first or is DH going to do it? Does she wake regularly in the evening, and if so is DH used to settling her?

When do you return to work and will it be full time?

You’ve just got to do, particularly if you are going back to work. It’s important for children to forge trusting relationships with other adults as well as mum. It’s develops their social skills & general development plus and is just a really lovely thing. My DD thinks going to Granny’s house is the best thing ever. I love that. I had such a special bond with my grandparents as a kid & I hope my DD’s feel the same about theirs!

I’ve been really poorly in my second pregnancy & had no choice but to rely heavily on my OH & parents. There are going to be times you can’t be there for some reason (even just because you’ve gone out for dinner with friends) & so again, important your daughter trusts & is happy with other adults.

I promise your relationship won’t become any less special. You’ll always be mum. You’ll always be her world.

I've just tried to give her a bottle of expressed milk but she wasn't having any of it, I'll try again tomorrow.

Obviously this hasn't helped my worry!

Is there a reason you tried to give the expressed milk? It’s just that she’s unlikely to take it from you