Parenting with a personality disorder

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Hi I have 2 children a 1 year old almost 2 and a 5 year old almost 6 I struggle with emotional dysregulation on a daily which makes me struggle with my children and my husband. Since my eldest was born I've always struggled with him I gave him what he wanted for years now I'm paying for it. I'm currently living away from home as my marriage and relationship with my children is critical I need serious help I'm such a shit mother and I want to be back home. I don't know what else to do the only reason I'm alive is my children! I need to prove to myself I can do it but currently going down the same road as my childhood which has got me no where positive for my life please help I'm a parent close to giving up

This is probably above our paygrade, id get professional help if you're not already.

Have you had a diagnosis of BPD/ EUPD? Have you been offered any therapy/ DBT for it?

There is support, it's hard to get sometimes but it is out there.

Can you speak to your health visitor? There's often parenting courses courses available which might give you specific tools to use when you're struggling with the children's behaviour and make you feel more confident in the parenting techniques you use. I would also go to your GP and say what you've said here about how much all this is impacting your life and ask for help. This sounds like a really difficult time for you and young children can be hard work even when everything else is going fine. Take care of yourself and if you have friends or family around you this is the time to ask for support as you have done here.

Have you voluntarily left the family home OP, are SS involved?

Have you had any therapy if not investigate DBT it’s great for EUPD and CPSTD

Hi yes I have had the diagnosis been through some parenting classes and voluntarily due to my anger and stress levels I'm touch and go with my moods I'm currently awaiting stabilisation with my psychiatrist

Sounds like you’re already working hard and want the best for your children. I really hope things improve for all of you, I can tell you’re feeling pretty desperate.

I'm so stressed out I've told my partner I can't come home until I'm sorted he agrees but I'm limited on when I see them and how often due to the extensive therapy and medication I'm doing whilst waiting for others to actually help me. I'm going to end up in hospital admitted if I don't get support soon it's difficult and it's killing me