pls help me find the thread which recently thanked cod for her potty training advice... there was a quick rundown on the whole treats approach and i think i need it for ds2 whos being a bit of a bugger atm

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bless his gorgeous little socks [grr][loving smile]

hes now 3.2, was almost trained but fell at last hurdle about half a year ago when he got chickenpox... then has been doing really well agin last few weeks with the v occasional accident... till the last week or so when hes been crapping in his pants, weeing ditto and insisting on a nappy by turns (all while still happily skipping off to the loo inbetween and seeming to do really well.)

the accidents are increasing. and hes back at nursery school now 5 mornings and lunch... did really well today apparently mind... had a right old fuss about putting on pants this am.

have been resolutely avoiding all threads along lines of 'my dc is regressing in toilet training' in manner of bird with head in sand, but tis time for help.

i dont want this behaviour to become entrenched. hes a one for backing himself into a corner is our max.

ta for reading if you got this far!

aw please?

my leg is going gangrene and its distracting enough to make thread searching a real pain. just seem to get lost in tons of threads which arent it.

nobody loves me, everybody hates me, i think ill go and eat worms....

sings to self

Hi, I'm sorry but I don't know about the cod thread but I have some advice that may or may not help. It sounds as if your ds has an issue about the whole toilet thing. As awful as it sounds probably the best way you could deal with this is to put him back in Nappies all the time for a month. Say nothing to him about it, do not mention the toilet/potty/pants word, just act as you did before you started potty training as if he is a baby. It will be tough not to talk to him about it but it will show him that you don't actually care if he is in nappies (even if you do), he will quickly realise that you haven't mentioned it for a while and may even ask to try again without nappies. If he doesn't ask then in 4 weeks time you start from scratch again. He will be really good this time at it and will probably be dry almost immediately. It is possible that it has become a bit of a game with him at the moment, if you put a stop to his game by not mentioning it again for a while then he will get bored of it.

If you continue the game then it may get harder and harder for you and for him.

Hope it helps, good luck with whatever you decide to do.

mrsjaffabiffa, thank you for your advice and thank you for replying at all!

i do see exactly where you are coming from on that... complicating factor is his school. he is now (as of thursday) there every weekday from 8.30 to 1.30 and really needs to be toilet trained for it. they deal with accidents but hes not supposed to be out-and-out 'in nappies'. hmmmmmmm

i could try doing the ignoring pretending thing at home... i do have a w/end now...

ah!

i found it. the thread i was after. tis cryptically called thank you cod ... no wonder i couldnt find it

(to be fair, now everyone is in bed i can finally think straight which makes things easier)