Playing at the park.

[headlock]

Would you allow your 11 year old nephew to take your 4 year old DD to the park? It's about two streets away from our house. My nephew is a lovely lad and responsible, he's also great with my DD and she loves him to bits.
I'm undecided, mostly I'm fine with this but also worry it's a big responsibility for an 11 year old.

No, 11 is way too young to be properly responsible for a 4 year old.

Is this the first time your dd would be taken anywhere by him? If so then no - he probably is responsible but 4 yo can turn into monsters away from your sight. If you want to test the water then see how they play on the street (if it’s possible to play on the street where you are).

No. Not because he’s not responsible, more because it’s too much pressure. If something happened he’d feel so awful.

My ds is 11 and isn't even allowed to the park without ds 5 never mind with!
When ds was 3 he had a nasty mishap at the park so def won't be going without an adult..

Yes, depending on the child.
If they get on, and the 11yo is sensible, I’d provide them with a phone and let them go.
Strict instructions to be back before x time.

Goodness me no! I wouldn't make a child of that age be responsible for a 4 year old to that extent. It's not fair should anything happen.

Absolutely not

I'd allow it if the youngest was 6 or something but not 4. Just my opinion.

Probably not. Only because I'd worry about little one falling off the equipment.

No. Maybe take an 8yo. But not a 4yo.

my eldest is 12 and i let him go to the park near us, but i definitely wouldn’t let him take his 5 year old brother.

Thanks for the replies. I should add, we live in quite a small community so no busy city roads etc.

No. Far too much responsibility for an 11 year old.

Your considering letting your 4 year old go to the park two streets away with an 11 year old?? Is this for real? This has to be a joke surely? I would never let my 4 year old to a park without a responsible adult! Anything could happen - what if the 11 year old injured themselves? How would the 4 year old tell you apart from trying to get home alone? I know it's rare but what if someone took one of them - how would you know if anything happened?
Why can't you go with them?

No

I do go to the park with them @hardyloveit, often. Not anywhere in my OP does it say I don't or can't take them. Thanks for your opinion though.

No way

no way sorry.

(I have a preschooler myself and an 11 year old nephew)

No I wouldn't. I have a 5 year old and she has a (pretty immature) 12 year old cousin and I wouldn't let him take her the park.

God no way
Our park is 20 seconds away at end of our road and still no chance

No, and I’m quite relaxed about children having freedom. Back in the 80s when I was in my early teens I used to take my half sister, who would have been 3-4, to the park by myself. One day she fell from the top of the slide and hit her head on the concrete (as it was then, no soft rubber floors). I was beside myself and had no idea what to do, it was fairly traumatic for both of us. I’d never put a child in that kind of position because it’s too much for them if something does happen.

Absolutely

At 11 (it was a very long time ago ) I was left in charge of two 1 year olds, for 6 hours.
Even by the standards back then it was horrific and honestly, I hated the burden:

I know the child in question is 4, but honestly he's way too young to have that much responsibility.

No, it might be fine, but if there was an accident then the 11 year old may deal with terrible guilt.

@headlock didn't say you didn't take them. I asked why you can't go with them and are thinking of letting them go alone!