3 year old not potty trained

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He's just not interested. Turned 3 just before January. Nursery also try. He'll bring me his mat and nappy and tell me to change him. Wasn't happy about being put in pulls ups. Sticker charts and bribery doesn't seem to be working. We read potty training books and watch cartoons on youtube. He'll move into the preschool room in April. Hoping if he sees none of the older kids using a nappy might encourage him. Any other late developers?

Did anyone have issues with them holding on? My DS will be 3 in summer and i'd like to have him trained by then, but I think he holds onto poos so i've gotten scared of giving him a medical issue with constipation and returned to the nappies.

In my experience waiting til he was ready would've meant it never would have happened as he never showed any interest

^^this, he'll never voluntarily use a potty/toilet he's quite happy in nappies

My son showed absolutely no interest. Actually he was determined he wasn't potty training
A few weeks of pain then completely dry - just had to wait till he realized it was a fight he wasn't going to win

@hollyhead I totally sympathise

Ours is finally using the loo after 14 months, not a typo, of training. She knew exactly what to do but didn't want to do it. Probably something to do with little sister coming onto the scene. Believe me when I say we tried every suggestion going. Finally threw the towel in and chucked her back in pullups after a year just to give us all a break and started her on pants again a month later, which seemed to do the world of good, and she's pretty much there now. Just some solidarity in case it takes ages for you...not all kids are up for it in 3 days straight!

I think waiting until they are ready has two components and the most important one is that they are physically and mentally ready - ie they have the ability to hold it and they have the mental capacity to understand what the potty/toilet is for.

There's a second component which is emotional readiness and this one can be harder to define and can also vary by child eg the child above who simply chose not to use the potty and to behave badly instead. I would argue that child IS emotionally ready, he/she just doesn't want to. This is opposed to the child who is genuinely terrified of the potty eg worrying about "losing" his wee/poo etc. That's a different thing and may require more time and patience. However, too often people confuse the child not wanting to learn with the child being scared and put off potty training accordingly. And that is, I suspect, detrimental to everyone.

Biting the bullet today. No nappies potty downstairs and upstairs. Did a few nappy free hours yesterday after nursery

good luck OP. My only advice is dont regress, accidents will happen dont let them set you back (even if your washing machine seems to be on constantly)

I wouldn’t worry to much, get the potty out and start to introduce it (sorry if you have already haven’t had time to read all as in a rush). Maybe when you are changing him just sit him on it so he gets used to it as that seems to be the main issue when potty training. Then pick a few days stay at home, take all nappies away apart from bed time. Use the potty, watch for signals go sit him on it every 20 minutes or so. Give him a reward for anything on the potty (chocolate, toy, starts towards something bigger). Keep on going don’t give up. It will be horrible at sometimes where you are cleaning up accidents and will feel so much easier to put a nappy back on but if you stay consistent you will be fine. If it makes you feel any better my youngest is 3 and still not potty trained and my eldest is 4.5 and was potty trained at around 3.5. Each child is different some take longer some are trained so much quicker.

I'm on day 4 with my 2 year 10 month ds at the moment. We had an unsuccessful attempt about 6 months ago and he went back in nappies. I also have a 7 week old baby at the moment so I just thought he's going into pants and that's it, and I don't have the time or energy to make a big deal of this. So far he needs a lot of prompting but getting it in the potty maybe 60% of the time. Is he ready? I think so? Am I putting him back in nappies? No.

We've had no accidents today! He's finally taken to it. Just stayed in for an entire day with a potty in the room. No pull ups. Think he needed a firmer approach. If we'd waited till he showed signs he'd be going to school in nappies

Yayyy it doesn't take long once you get going but you might get accident s clean them up and soldier on