PND in men

[lorza03]

ok soo my husband has been having a rough time mainly since we had our 3 rd child in April 2019 - I feel he suffered with the lack of sleep and relationship between us as husband and wife, our son is now 11 months old he has not slept at all since 6 months old, he is constantly night waking , we have a small house so struggle to get away from the noise.
I have now after having 3 children accepted the fact I get no sleep and I think my body has learnt to process on little sleep,
my husband on the other hand still has to work - he works 6/7 days every week I feel hes scared that he is the provider for us all, he told me a few nights ago he feels depressed, doesn't want to eat, talk to anyone, is getting his jobs wrong, the main thing is no sleep.
I am feeling at such a loss for him how do I help him to get out of what he is feeling, or can I.?
I just really want to help him, we have been together 6 years I have never seen him as sad and low as he is atm.

It may sound drastic, but would it be possible for him to have a night away every week or so? Stay with family/friends one weeknight, just so he gets a sleep top up?

Some people can't cope with sleep deprivation, it makes them sick, and if your husband is struggling it may be that more sleep will help.

Is there anything you could be doing to improve your kids sleep -training, groclocks, star charts etx?

no @SomeoneElseEntirelyNow - we have talked about him going on a break away with his friend or maybe sleeping with a family memner at the moment I feel anything that will help his well being would be good.
we said maybe a hotel if no other option .
out 2 other children sleep brillianty its only the 11mo who is a monkey, I currently still BF and I am trying to wean him down as he feds more for comfort during the nights but wont always go back down, I feel co- sleeping is not a option for us. I haven't heard of a gro clock so will have a google.! thank you

I'd say he needs to see his GP. He's clearly got a lot on his plate and the sleep could either be the cause or just one of the symptoms, either way I'd say as it's been ongoing for a while he's best to get some professional advice on what might help him.

My DS didn't sleep from 10-16 months so I have every sympathy, it's really hard going (and we've only got the 1!).