AIBU??

[theoneontheleft]

AIBU to say no to my in-laws taking my toddler away abroad WITHOUT ME for a week?

I feel like I'm perfectly right saying no, she can't go.
ML FL and OH are telling me I'm overreacting and I'm being selfish and all of that bs.
Trying to make me feel shitty because I won't let them take my toddler abroad for a week?!

Is it just me that sees that this is completely abnormal, so wrong to take someone else's child that young out of the country without their parent/'s? I'm so angry right now and basically they are telling all the rest of their family and friends that I'm the bad one and that I am keeping my baby away from them just because I said no for taking her abroad!

Should add OH isn't going either so would just my little one with the in-laws.

YANBU although I realise this isn't AIBU. Not a chance in hell would I let PILs take DC abroad for a week. How old is your DC? You are allowed to just say "I'm sorry, you may not understand it but I'm not comfortable with it, we can think about it again when they're older". You are the parent, you set the boundaries.

Not a chance in hell I'd be letting that happen. But then it wouldn't ever be an issue because neither my parents or PIL are weirdos who would ever consider suggesting it.

I would be laughing in their faces at the ridiculousness.

Nope that wouldn’t be happening with my child.

Op, stick to your guns. Your little one isn’t a toy or an accessory to be passed around.
She’s not there to entertain them.

If her dad won’t be there either. Why would you? It makes no sense.

Nope. Personally I'm not comfortable with my toddler spending the night without me while he's too young to understand why I'm not there/too young to make that choice.

Not a chance would I be letting anyone take him abroad without me.

Thankyou everyone for your replies, I will be sticking to my guns and saying no she can't go.
It's like they can't comprehend that it isn't normal!
Maybe it's normal in their family but not for
Mine! And for most families out there it isn't normal too.
Just hate being made out to be the bad one whose restricting them from time with my dd but there's not a chance in hell im letting her go. As someone said above she isn't there for their entertainment they can come and see her whenever they want that should be enough for them.

Not in a million years would I allow his with my in laws. Not even my own parents, who I actually trust. A weekend in the UK, yes. A week abroad, no way.

Absolutely no way on earth would I let anyone take my toddler abroad without me or DH.
What the hell is wrong with them? Surely any toddler would be really upset at being taken away from their parents for a whole week.
Stand your ground!

No I wouldn't feel happy either

Fuck that! YANBU

That's madness!! A night away from me with the in-laws would be a big deal (haven't done that yet) but there's no way anyone's taking my toddler out of the country without me!

The bit that's unreasonable, is not that they've asked to take him on holiday, but that they won't accept your answer.

Well - this all seems totally bonkers! Who the hell do they think they are? Why do they need/want to do this? - it is not their child.

I have never heard anything so crackpot and would be royally pissed off with your OH for supporting them in this hair-brained idea.

It sounds to me as though they do not grasp the fundamental fact that they have had their go at parenting and now your job is to act in the best interests of your own child.

How old is DD?

It is complete madness and I cannot comprehend how they cannot comprehend how abnormal that is. My DD is nearly 2 years old! Way way way too young. Completely bonkers!!!

You are being SELFISH to want to look after and protect your child's interests???????!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Just crazy!

My parents had my 4yo while I went abroad for a week (for work) but whilst he was young, he wasnt a toddler.

Why do they all think it's OK?

The thought of my in-laws taking my nearly 2 year old on a day out without me makes me feel sick. They just don't know enough about her. Just say no OP. YADNBU.