Maybe if people were more honest about the sheer volume of women who go through a pregnancy knowing they have no patience, ability to compromise, empathy, a sense of entitlement, a belief they can't learn from anyone, fear of having to deal with shit by themselves while feeling sick while also knowing they will not cope without reaching ''breaking point' the care system could be full of kids whose life story wasn't written out in utero.
Mumsnet presumed 'Breaking point" meant crying in a heap. Read the op again, note the words used because they are words a lot of kids recognise as meaning the opposite of sad , Dp is almost 'accused' of working 9 hours, Mum is accused in a weirdly indignant way of knowing whats best for MY baby, op is FED UP, thats not the same as sad, she then talks about being sick for weeks and incapable of looking after herself, as if it's someone elses fault and finally 'Can you tell me what to do, that isn't an abortion" Which leaves 'tell me how to get someone else to do shit for me'
The attitude OP has is exactly like the mums whose kids I was in care with. Sometimes crying, sometimes squawking, screaming and usually quite frightening.
@midwestspring I never though I'd be grateful to a social worker, but watching how mumsnetters have reported EVERY post where I've said "this is exactly how life started for pretty much every kid I came across in care" or words to that effect was reported as harsh.
Thank you for letting me finally make the connection between women who cannot cope because then everybody else steps in to make them happy until they realise and all those kids who seemed to have the exact same life experiences, miserable, screamed at and watching a grown woman cry because they believe their kid is a burden/ungrateful/out of control/doing it on purpose and it's absolutely nothing to do with mums mata hari attitude to every aspect of parenting.
I am shocked at how many women on a mums site believe OP is stating that is SAD what she can't cope with is other people, is fed up, angry because her partner works, furious an older woman is looking after her child and is at breaking point. She sounds like she is more likely to smack someone than cry.