1 year old is a biter. Help before I throw him out the window.

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DS is 1 on Sunday and for the last month or two has been trying to take chunks out of me and DD with his needly little baby teeth.

I’ve tried saying “NO!” V sharply, but the wee bugger just laughs and goes for another lunge- clearly thinks it’s a game. It’s bloody sore when he does it as well, he really goes for it, and it’s not like I can punish him or have a reasoned conversation with a 12 month old.

Dd is 2 and has started to really avoid him because she anticipates he’s going to bite her

What can I do? The only advice I’ve got from family is to bite him back, which I’m obviously not going to do because it’s not the 1700s.

A very firm and consistent response of 'No!' You don't need to shout but lower your tone right down. If his understanding is good you could say 'No! That hurts' Once you've said that just move him away from you and turn his back to you / the activity you're doing. No eye contact or talking other than very briefly and firmly telling him no.
If he does it again you repeat.

I found "no" (low not loud) and purposefully ignoring him for a minute or so worked. Or maybe he just grew out of it.

He doesn't bite so much any more though so something happened.

Yep a stern but not loud no! Then ignore them for a minute made mine better than he was but does still bite occasionally.

DD went through a phase of biting. She will still occasionally grab my finger to bite it when she's getting too giddy playing. A change in tone and "No, you mustn't bite, biting hurts" will stop her before she actually bites. Definitely tell him no and then remove yourself if he's laughing, thinking it's a game and he's keeping your attention by doing it.

Agree with all the good advice above. Be consistent and he'll grow out of it. Can you keep an eye out if he has a trigger or a 'tell' before he's about to do it and distract him?

Another vote for "no that hurts and is not ok"
Followed by removing him from your lap, put him down or move him away from your dd
And ignore until he moves on to something else. He is doing it for attention/reaction I would guess.

Just say no, and place him on the floor, facing away from you and walk away. He’s doing it for attention and he’s getting a response from you....pain. But you have to positively reinforce and tenderness he shows you, ie, snuggles in, kisses etc. Go big and make a big fuss of him when he gets it right.
Tell other family member to do the same to reinforce the message.

A very firm no and move him away; if my DD was sitting with me I’d literally put her on the floor or the other end of the sofa to communicate that I wasn’t going to play and interact with her when she was biting. It took a while to have an effect but it did eventually work

My son at a mother and toddler group who was probably nearly one year of age bit the child sitting next to him on the floor a little girl of the same age, and i was in shock. One of the women in the small group in the church hall told me that if happened again for me to do the same back, i.e. bite him. I was bit unsure about this, but luckily he didnt do it again, otherwise i might have just done this action to him. He is older now and left home, but at that age they go through different, similar things as even all those years ago this was an issue for me, and I think with a child's development it may be done to see your reaction - you just dont know.

At 12 months my baby was a biter. Literally nothing would stop him. Every time I said no quite sternly and if he persisted I would put him down or stop playing with him for a minute. He’s 14 months now and he rarely bites so just a phase. My 2 year old was like this too and within a few months he didn’t bite at all.

My DS used to do this - mainly when he was excited or giving someone a cuddle. A firm “no, that hurts“ with a sad face, and putting him down and walking away (a couple of feet) worked. Once we worked out his “tell” a gentle “no biting” stopped him in his tracks.

He grew up to be a gentle kind soul, so don’t worry too much!