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Do you let your children see you naked???

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TheQueenOfQuotes · 06/09/2007 13:09

Is so is it both parents they see naked, and up to what age, if not why not??? Does it make a difference if it's DS's/DD's etc?

(just had a discussion with DH about it and wondered what other people's views were).

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curiouscat · 06/09/2007 14:59

lol Ripeberry. My dc's don't understand the difference between nipples and breasts. So in the swimming changing rooms it's all talk of mum's big nipples and hairy 'bottom.'

For some time dd's went on about dh's big willy compared ds's small one and since then he's less keen to let them watch him shower. You can imagine this could be taken the wrong way in the playground etc.

DS age 9 hates anyone seeing him changing etc.

dh and I don't go out of our way to hide anything but thankfully have locks on our bathroom door so those toilet invasions are minimised. I think it's important for kids to know how they're going to grow up, as maisemor said. Especially if there's not a mix of gender in the siblings.

prettybird · 06/09/2007 15:00

Ds is 7 on Sunday and sees both dh and i regularly naked. We both sleep with no clothes on - and then will wander through the kitchen in the monring to make tea etc (espacially at weekends) withoutputting anything on. Ditto with going through to the bathroo,

We will continue to do so for as long as ds is cmfortable. he has made a comment about why does he wear pyjamas, when we don't (upshot is that he no longer wears a pyjama top, but does wear the trousers).

I like the fact that we are commfrtoable aobut our bodies.

I saw my parents naked well in to young adulthood - and even now wouodn't be too embarassed.

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TheQueenOfQuotes · 06/09/2007 16:22

"I like the fact that we are commfrtoable aobut our bodies"

DH and I are both comfortable about our bodies too (although mine is somewhat more flabby and wobbly than DH's rather toned one ). Thinking back to my childhood I don't think I ever saw my dad totally naked (saw his "bits" hanging out of the bedsheets on a few occasioins when I went into wake him up for mum when I was a teen - and I found it quite amusing......especially the speed he covered himself up - my mum was a bit more open about it although again it wasn't very often that we saw her naked, just once in a while when we needed a wee and she was in the bath - and still is (well she has to be she needs a carer to help her bath and get dressed these days) but I don't think my parents "lack" of being naked around me affected the way I think about my own body.

And tBH - I'm not sure what difference the DS's seeing my "bits" flapping around is going to do in helping them learn that their bodies will change.......I hope they never get so fat they've got man boobs .

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aloha · 06/09/2007 16:23

All the time. In fact dd's (2.5) favourite thing in the whole world is a 'bare cuddle' in bed. I get in the bath with them. Actually, they get in the bath with me, quite often against my will

CountessDracula · 06/09/2007 16:24

We have dd aged 5 who sees us both naked whenever. We sleep naked fairly often and she jumps in with us in the morning, she is around when we are getting dressed/showering etc.

expatinscotland · 06/09/2007 16:26

No

I don't see what that has to do with how comfortable a person is with his/her body, though.

I never saw my parents naked and I'm very, very comfortable with my body.

It's not a question of nudity, is it?

lucyellensmum · 06/09/2007 17:25

DD2 sees us both naked she is 2, DD1 is 17 and still sees me naked but DP is her step dad so probably never seen him naked even though he been around since she was 18m, it never felt appropriate, not sure when will stop dd seeing daddy naked but it doesn't feel like an issue yet.

prettybird · 07/09/2007 08:50

I wasn't meaning to imply that not letting kids see you naked meant that you weren't comfortable with your body .

I know it is all part of the bigger way that you teach kids to be comofortable with themselves and those aobut them.

i was just talking about my own expereince.

lou33 · 07/09/2007 08:53

i stopped when one of them started feeling awkward, so that was about a year and a half ago when dd1 was 14

now if they dont leave my room when i am trying to get ready i threaten them with getting naked in front of them, and they leg it

BecauseImWorthIt · 07/09/2007 09:01

DH and I sleep naked, and walk around naked whilst getting dressed.

I always wondered if we would have to stop this as the boys got older but they seem quite relaxed about it, even though - at 15 and 12 - they are increasingly aware of and need their own privacy.

Every morning, DH gets up and goes down to the breakfast and my boys come and get into our bed and we all have a cuddle. (They wear pyjamas). I know that friend of mine has real issues with this and clearly thinks I shouldn't allow it.

BecauseImWorthIt · 07/09/2007 09:01

Sorry - goes down to do the breakfast

ghosty · 07/09/2007 09:05

I am just beginning to be a little less 'let is all hang out' when DS is around (he is nearly 8)
He hasn't said anything but I have noticed that if he comes in to talk to me when I am getting dressed he just stares at my boobs and nether regions ... so I just gently, without mentioning a word, pull on a dressing gown or shirt while he is talking and then he looks at my face ... it cracks me up .

law3 · 07/09/2007 14:31

my 3 year comes in the bath with me or my DH, my 11 year old stopped about 2 years ago.

My 13 year old and 11 year old often sit in the bathroom with me chatting while im in the bath.

I dont walk around the house naked, but i dont hide if im in the process of getting dressed.

My 13 and 11 year old like their privacy though and i havent seen them naked in years.

meandmy · 07/09/2007 14:37

yes i walk round naked in front of dd and we bath together me and dd still have skin to skin contact she is 15mo now and it doesnt bother me in fact a cpl days ago i had put my dressing gown on cause i was cold she pulled it open "lub you boobies" as she cuddle my breasts i just asked here if she loved mommy aswell!

law3 · 07/09/2007 14:37

i will add dh covers himself with a flannel in the bath (he would like me to say a extra large towel, but a flannel does the job!!!) otherwise my 3 year old trys to grab it as it floats!!

expatinscotland · 07/09/2007 14:38

It's too damn cold to walk round naked half the time up here and we're about to move to a huge Victorian house that costs a bomb to heat in winter.

So I think I'll be keeping clothed for the most part.

seeker · 07/09/2007 14:38

Mine are 6 and 11. 6 is inclined to giggle laddishly when he sees me naked so I avoid it - but don't mind if he does see me. He still often showers with dp. I am pretty relaxed around dd, but dh started to put a towel on when she was around 9ish. Once again, it's not a big deal if she walks in on him - but he would be very careful not to walk in on her unless she invites him to come and chat when she's in the bath. We've tried to be led by them - but also to consider our own privacy and to not make a big deal out of it.

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TheQueenOfQuotes · 07/09/2007 14:40

expat......is that bumbo still on offer? (sorry chasing you around - even started a thread for you ).

Hows Mr. Kitchen

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Wordsmith · 07/09/2007 14:43

We sleep naked and until 3 months ago didn't have a lock on the bathroom door, so it's hard to avoid it!

DumbledoresGirl · 07/09/2007 14:45

Yes we are fairly relaxed about nudity and I certainly go naked in front of my children (I don't mean I deliberately parade naked. I mean, I don't mind them walking into the room when I am showering or dressing). But I have noticed the oldest 2 dss (11 and 9) do tend to look at a level lower than my face when I do that so perhaps I should cover up more?

expatinscotland · 07/09/2007 14:45

I forgot about that bumbo!

Yes, you can have it.

What's your email address or are you CAT-able? I am!

donnie · 07/09/2007 14:48

we are relaxed about it too. although recently both my dds have taken to grabbing my breasts on occasions and shouting 'boo boos!' and have also commented on ' daddy's great big willy'!!! they are 5 and 2 btw.

kama · 07/09/2007 14:58

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lornaloo · 07/09/2007 15:00

Yeh all the time!

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TheQueenOfQuotes · 07/09/2007 15:01

expat - email is gwenick dot taff at ntlworld dot com

Just let me know how much the total is (including postage) and how you want to recieve the money - I have vague memories of you not using paypal???? - and I'll get it sorted.

DS3 is now nearly too big for his bouncy chair - feet stick off the end and he;s starting to look rather uncomfortable (although has been napping in it this afternoon )

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