Bump at nursery

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Looking for a bit of advice as we're new to this. I'm getting a few red flags from my sons nursery but really don't want to be pfb as I work in education as well.

My son is 2 and started nursery in January. Wobbly start but he now loves it. He's come home today with a bruise above his right eye about one inch by one inch, with three scratches around this bruise about an inch to an inch and a half long.

My husband picked him up and didn't ask because he's never dealt with kids or caring for kids so he's no bloody clue sometimes. I've called the nursery and they've no accident form and no one noticed it. They're checking the cctv to see if they can see what happened.

I'm not going to go into the other red flags I've got because I don't want to colour responses. But if this was your kid would you not be a bit surprised that no one even noticed it and no accident form has been completed?

As a one off episode I wouldn't be too bothered but it sounds like this isn't isolated. Kids knock themselves and sometimes don't cry or seek adult attention and it can be hard for staff to keep an eye on all of the children all of the time.

I wouldn't be worried about him having a knock but I'd be worried about them not knowing how it happened (even just, I had my back to him but he was playing with the kitchen so I think he must've fallen and banged his head on the shelf) or telling you about it.

They've called back now and say that they can't see anything on cctv and he didn't cry or complain of being hurt at all today. I dunno how they can't have noticed tbh. I mean I know he's my kid but I saw it from the other side of the room as soon as he got home.

I know kids have bumps and stuff and trust me we've had our fair share. So it's not that I want to get anyone in trouble or complain it's just not sitting right that no one even noticed the bruised and scratches.

Id be a little concerned. Nursery rang me once to say a member of staff hadnt realised my daughter was behind them when they stepped back from the door and bumped into her- no mark on her, she wasnt of an age where she would tell me, so I was very grateful for the awareness they had to keep me in the loop.

I'd make a note but probably not raise it unless you have other issues.

didn't ask because he's never dealt with kids or caring for kids

Your son is 2. Is your DH not the father?

@crapette sorry I meant professionally so he's not aware of expectations of what they should and shouldn't do etc. I've been a beaver leader for 10 years and worked in education 8 years so he always just trusts my judgement in these situations.

@OnlyFoolsnMothers that's what I would expect tbh. Not a big deal but just let me know or at least be aware of it.

My nursery tells me about every little bump and I have to sign a form each time. Sometimes it's so minor I would never have noticed if they hadn't pointed it out! If it's really obvious and pretty bad, I would wonder how they hadn't noticed to be honest... if it was just a one off I would let it go but if it's a reoccurring thing I'd raise concerns.

Thinking back I do recall a few times when my husband and I hadn't noticed my son had hurt himself at home... and we only have one child to keep an eye on!!

Thanks for the clarification, but even so, if the bruising/scratching is that obvious, why would he not think to ask what happened to his child?