Hi everyone, I could really do with some feedback / support / suggestions on dealing with my 6 year old.
Over the last few weeks, he’s become very rude, answering back, not doing as I ask and just being rather unpleasant. He’s always been very obsessive over things, like he won’t let things drop. If he makes a funny sound he will keep doing it over and over no mater how many times I say stop, or sing a song on repeat. Or if we play cricket, it’s always ‘just one more ball’ to the point he will storm off hysterically crying if I say no. But I’ve excepted that and understand he has an obsessive nature, and have always been able to deal with it in a positive way. But now with the answering back, the out right ‘no’ response and then the really over the top hysterical crying if I send him to his room/naughty step, I just find myself shouting all the time. I try being calm, counting to ten, walking away, but he just carries on so I end up shouting.
He seems to have lost any compassion for anyone else’s feelings, his little sister fell over today and was crying and he just sat there not bothered, but when the shoes in the other foot we get hours of ‘poor me’. So I just lost it with him, shouted at him, said I didn’t like him because of how he behaves (I feel horrible for this), sent him to his room, called him a cry baby and made him sit on his own for tea. I feel horrible for all of this but I just felt like it was weeks of built up stress/upset/anger coming out all at once. I have never hit my kids, ever, but I raised my hand when shouting at him, I stopped and that’s when I sent him to his room but I just feel so ashamed. I’m just looking for some help really on how to deal with his outbursts to stop my own. Thanks in advance