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Am I being unreasonable?

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myaj · 02/03/2020 08:26

Hello everyone, just looking for some advice :)
So my and my husband have a 4 year old son and I am 5 weeks pregnant with number 2. He works full time and I work part time 2 days and am at university. I get up in the morning and do breakfast for my 4 year old get him dressed etc and do the school run, I do all the cleaning, ironing, washing etc. He's never even washed a dish.
In the morning he lays in bed on his phone until absolutely the latest time he can get up without being late for work and I'm usually leaving for the school run at this time. Am I being unreasonable for getting annoyed at this? I haven't gotten mad I've just tried to calmly explain that he needs to be more motivated in the mornings maybe have breakfast and stop watching other people's lives on social media constantly. He thinks I'm being horrible and controlling so I told him I'm not trying to control him but to just show him how it feels. I get no help with our son in the mornings which is fine. I get he works full time but would be nice to all be up and have breakfast together. I feel I may just be over emotional due to the pregnancy. He tells me I'm pushing him away but I never ever question him maybe once a fortnight I might bring up something calmly. I asked him if he can start taking his plate out when we have finished eating he said of course and just doesn't do it. I just want a little bit of help. Am I being a bitch? Thanks everyone x

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7yo7yo · 02/03/2020 08:27

Lazy fucking man child.
Your only problems are him and your own low expectations.

Pantheon · 02/03/2020 08:48

You're not being unreasonable to expect your dh to pull his weight around the house. It shouldn't all be on you. It must be like having another child rather than an equal partner. I'd be livid if my dh expected everything to fall on me and had never even washed a dish.

EdgarAlanPoe · 02/03/2020 08:51

He is taking the piss out of you.

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Bol87 · 02/03/2020 09:31

He’s taking the absolute piss. My OH gets up at the same time as me. He showers. I dress & do our DD hair. He then takes her down for breakfast & I shower. He doesn’t eat breakfast but makes himself a coffee & packs the lunch bag. Sometimes, he even makes my breakfast.

The kitchen is my OH domain. He does all the cooking, cleaning, washing up. I do everything else, hoovering, washing, dusting, tidying of the playroom (mammoth task), bathroom cleaning. We see it as a fair enough split. I enjoy a rest on the sofa while he’s loading the dishwasher & cleaning. He enjoys a rest on the sofa while I hoover etc!

Your OH is being awful. It’s his house too. He needs to help out!

pooopypants · 02/03/2020 09:56

He's being a lazy, selfish, self centred arsehole

YANBU

Why would you want to have more children with this prince???

Pinkflipflop85 · 02/03/2020 09:58

I'm surprised you thought it would be a good idea to have another child with this 'man'.

pinkyredrose · 02/03/2020 10:00

How did this come about? Has he not lifted a finger since you've lived together and you've just taken everything on with no discussion?

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