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N12345625 · 29/02/2020 10:56

Hello,
I had an emergency c section with my first baby. She is now nearly 8 months old, and have recently found out I am pregnant with baby number 2. Obviously I am really thankful that we are having another baby but I am soooo worried.
I have been googling and so worried about my body not being ready yet.
I am also really worried about dealing with two babies, my first had really bad colic for the first three months and I remember being so knackered and exhausted.
Has anyone else had a 16 month gap and got any stories to tell? Some positives too please!!
Or any tips!
Thank you (from a really worried mum) xx

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Skylucy · 29/02/2020 11:29

I have a small gap between mine, and like you was worried about the toll it would take on my body, and how I'd actually manage it all! I didn't have a C-section with either, but I did have a tough birth with my first, who was also extremely colicky (in hindsight I suspect undiagnosed silent reflux), and screamed at us for 6 months solid. I then found pregnancy very tough - I was extremely sick, and I've never had childcare, so looking after a baby at the same time was, frankly, exhausting and emotional! HOWEVER, babe number 2 was a totally different experience. Easy lovely birth and so laidback! My physical recovery was speedy (except for an issue with low iron due to blood loss - moral of the story, always push for a transfusion!), and my newborn was happy in the sling so I could do more with my toddler. Genuinely, it was so much easier than I had anticipated. Obviously I was lucky with an easy birth and easy babe and I appreciate this isn't guaranteed (and, for balance, he didn't sleep longer than 90 minutes until we got a sleep consultant 13 months in!!), but the fact I was more relaxed, distracted and confident second time around definitely helped.

Top tips: use a sling. Have a bouncer in every floor or in every key room in your house. Have a bag of nappies, wipes, muslins, snacks and spare clothes in your change bag, in your house and in your car. Get out and about, you'll feel better. LOOK AFTER YOURSELF. Shower/bath when you can and eat well. Be brave and chat to other mamas of 2 at playgroups etc., they're the only ones who'll understand and tolerate the joyous chaos, and they'll keep you sane.

Best of luck to you. My second baby is funnily enough now 16 months old, and I'd absolutely love another!! Grin

user1498572889 · 29/02/2020 11:33

There was 14 months between my first and second. I didn’t really find any problems my first slept 12 hours by the time my second was born. I think because you haven’t really got out of the baby phase it’s easier.

Kuponut · 29/02/2020 18:47

10 1/2 months between mine (prematurity narrowed it somewhat and nope it wasn't planned). Like someone said - you're still on baby footing so it's not the shock to the system that I'm seeing now my friends are having second babies after having their kids get older.

Mine are incredibly close/arch enemies/incredibly close now as siblings - and into the same kind of things and activities - so they've both gone off on a Beaver residential and I've got a night totally child-free!

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LordGarmadon · 29/02/2020 18:51

16 months between mine and I honestly think it was easier than a bigger age gap. I feel bad for mums who have to get school age children up and out of the house with a newborn in tow.

I had an emergency caesarean with my first and had lots of scar tissue, placenta praevia covering the entire cervix and some placenta growing through my scar tissue... far from ideal but I was well looked after and the elective caesarean was bliss!

Enchiladas · 29/02/2020 19:23

Following this as I'll have 2 with a 15 month age gap in summer

Marcry · 29/02/2020 19:34

I have 12 months between mine they’re now 4months and 16months, honestly it’s not that bad and they love each other, once ur in baby mode what’s one more nappy and one more waking up in night. I’m potty training the older one atm and it’s all going great. However the pregnancy was awful, dd1 didn’t even crawl until 12 months and didn’t walk until last week so was very difficult having to carry a baby while pregnant, and getting no sleep and weaning while you have morning sickness was not fun at all. 🤢🤢

N12345625 · 01/03/2020 08:01

Thank you so much for the replies everyone. I am starting to feel slightly less nervous now!! It still doesn't feel real! I guess the best thing I can do is relax and not over think everything! Thanks again ladies 😚😚

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Toddlerteaplease · 01/03/2020 08:16

My mum had a 15 month age gap. She was glad to get the baby and toddler stage done in one go. As I was so young there was no sibling jealousy, and we are still
Close now.

N12345625 · 01/03/2020 20:21

@toddlerteaplease I didn't think about the fact that my daughter will be still young so might not get as jealous! That's true, I really hope they are close ❤️

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Toddlerteaplease · 01/03/2020 21:10

I think the most stressful time for my mum was the GCSE/ A level years as we had major Evans for four years running, as sister was in the school year below me!

N12345625 · 05/03/2020 12:49

@toddlerteaplease haha I am trying not to think that far ahead yet 🙈🙈🙈

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