Is this normal? Shouted at 2yr old

[PapercraftNinja]

Ok so is it normal to shout / tell off toddler if they kick you?

DD was lying in bed, kicking my chest while I was trying to get her dressed as we were going out. I normally tell her not to and walk away if she carries on with stuff like that but this time I went OUCH STOP it after telling her once not to do it.

She instantly had a meltdown crying heaving etc and I felt / feel awful!!

I’ve googled about discipline because I feel like I’m doing it wrong! But other threads I’ve seen say the parent is pregnant / sleep deprived / has PND... I have no excuse!

Is it normal to shout like this and have an upset toddler once in a while? She’s been fine the rest of the day I just feel so guilty!

Why wouldn't it be OK? She's got to learn that some things aren't acceptable. It's not like you beat her up, is it?

No I think I need some normal advice though, I asked my friend she says she never needs to shout. When I googled it everything says how bad it is to shout...

I often tell her no and teach her boundaries but this response from her was upsetting

Sometimes you just can't help but shout: you're human and it's a natural response if something hurts or shocks you. If she cried it's probably because she didn't realise how much it hurt you and was upset.

I shout to and at my dc regularly. Not all the time but when they press my every last button and get on each one of my nerves. They know they're loved and treasured but they also know that, like them, I get overwhelmed and tired and snappy. Like its said before, as long as you're not yelling all the time or being physically violent or are in any other way abuseive, it's normal and it happens.

Thank you. Really appreciate both of your advice. I’m glad it’s normal! In those situations I sometimes don’t know what I should have done differently

Ah some people will come on and say you should have had a reasoned discussion about feelings and then 'love bombed' her but tbh shouting is normal and can be effective.

Once you've both calmed down you can tell her why you shouted -that her kicking hurts you and she must not do it.

Of course it is ok to tell them off, and to use a raised voice occasionally. They have to learn when something is totally unacceptable.

Toddlers will frequently cry and scream and go into a right old tantrum at the drop of a hat anyway. Don't worry about it.

I shout at my kids (2 and 4) often. I try not to, and I’m not proud of it, but like PP said, you’re only human and sometimes you can’t help yourself

I do think a raised voice and a strong “no” if they do something really bad is good, they have to learn that some behavior is unacceptable. But sometimes I just shout because I lose my temper. It is what it is and you can try to be better!

Dont listen to the "I never tell my kids off/ let them watch tv/ let them eat mcdonalds" brigade! such rubbish!
I try my best to not shout at my LO but 2 year olds can push you to the absolute brink!

For kicking I’d definitely tell DS off and if he cried so be it! You don’t kick, especially if she’d already been asked once. You didn’t do anything wrong, ignore all the ‘love bombing’, reasonably discussing, talking about feelings crap on Google, those things are effective but so is you putting your foot down!