AIBU? I don't want her kissing my baby

[kithop]

I took my 6 month old DS for his first swimming lesson recently. It was a largely positive experience except at one point the teacher surprised me be sweeping DS away for lots of kisses all over his face. She did it with some of the other babies in the class too. Nobody said anything.

Until that point he'd basically only been kissed by me (his mum). DH isn't much of a kisser, and we've managed to protect DS from kisses from others due to the risk of cold sore virus, RSV, etc. Now his swimming teacher, who we barely know, has kissed him more than his dad and his grandparents!

I want to continue to taking him swimming, but don't want this to happen again. I'm thinking of trying to transfer to a different (less convenient) class with another teacher. What do I do?

Swimming lessons at 6 months old are a complete waste of money. Problem solved and a bit more in your back pocket

@crustycrab

Just tell the instructor you aren't comfortable with it.

That said, if your reason for not wanting your baby to be kissed is due to risk of infection yet are happy to take him to baby swimming classes, then you are bananas.

I agree with crusty, just take her swimming yourself. If you did a world poll most people would find the idea of paying someone to swish your baby around in water is far weirder than kissing them.

Hmmm I wonder how our kids came to be the 'snowflake generation' again..... The parents maybe?

Is she from a different culture because us cold brits don't tend to smother other peoples babies with kisses.

I'd just go up to her in a orivate moment and say casually and politely, look I'd rather you didn't kiss my baby, I don't like it. I appreciate you love babies but I'd rather you didn't kiss mine.

Ps it's an expensive fad swimming 'lessons' at 6 months old. The leisure industry love us new gullible competitive generation of parents I bet

I think it's a bit unusual that you're sort of ranking kisses in that way! Like there's a kissing pecking order, and what bothers you is that she's somehow leapfrogged relatives on the list

I can't say this would have bothered me much. Babies are squishy and lovely

Really weird of the swim teacher to be honest .. there’s a degree of professionalism that comes with baby classes of any kind. A cuddle is one thing & possibly a peck on the head but none of the class leaders I ever met wouldn’t have dreamed of covering baby in kisses!

I’d probs see if it happened again & if so, move classes! I hate confrontation & would feel awkward forever more otherwise!

We loved swim classes, if you can afford them, ignore the naysayers. It’s only their opinion. I’d rather be a ‘snowflake’ than someone who uses the term to be derogatory to others. Be kind.

Oh and swimming lessons for a 6 month old is a waste of money.

@Bol87 Thanks He did seem to enjoy being in the water and that's all I'm looking for at this stage tbh.

Thanks to everyone that's replied, even if calling me a snowflake I'm finding negotiating situations like this as a new parent quite overwhelming. I want to do the best I can for my DS. Seeing that there are parents who think this is not such a big deal helps me get it into perspective.