Is it okay that I want another baby ?

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I never thought of being a mom but just 3 months ago I had a beautiful baby boy. And I'm truly so happy and in love with him(as most parents are). But I feel guilty because I now want another baby, I want them close in age, but I'm worried if I try for a baby now am I taking attention away from my son. And instead just be in the moment with the baby I have.
I dont know why but I just have a overwhelming desire for another child.Even tho my first pregnancy and the birth were anything but easy and I had to stay In hospital for 1 week after the birth due to blood loss and Infection.
Is this just my hormones ??
Will this feeling go ??
Any advice please.

I think at this point it’s probably hormones. I would wait a little longer, there is a reason having 2 under 2 yrs is marker of potential need for support by HVs.

It's fine but just wait a bit, otherwise it's such hard work. I had 21 months between my first two and they were both waking in the night and were both in nappies.

I have 18 months between my two. I thought I’d have a slightly bigger gap but got pregnant a lot quicker than I thought and like you, was worried about taking attention away from my son. Some bits were hard but overall it has been brilliant and my 2 adore each other. Ds1 has gained a lot more from having a brother than he lost out on and at 18 months he was too young to be jealous and just accepted him from day 1. I found being pregnant and looking after a toddler hard but it was all good after ds2 was born.

Yeah I'd say it was hormones. I had the same for the first few months after birth, luckily we waited and have had many occasions of saying 'wow, imagine if we had a newborn to contend with as well' since. I'm due our second in June when DD will be 2.5 which feels much more manageable than a 12/18 month gap. Plenty of people have small age gaps and cope and love it, but I'd say the 'overwhelming desire' comment would suggest hormones.

Thank you all, it's very helpful

I have a baby a similar age and felt very similar. It's probably your cycle restarting ;) I have also been advised they get a lot harder and your body does need time to recover. Maybe give yourself blocks of time like 6 months and see then.

I wanted another one straight after my first. It was probably hormonal looking back, but I also knew I wanted two close together in age and to be sure she wasn't an only child. As soon as I fell pregnant a year later, I felt very guilty about all of the things I wasn't able to do with her.
I think parenthood always involves feeling bad about something so try not to take it too much to heart. Definitely don't feel guilty about it.Giving your child a close sibling is lovely, but also don't pressure yourself to do or not do anything.

I am in your position and want another asap but I am pushing 40 so will ttc. If you have time then def wait