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o.k, so whats the earliest age you allow sleep-overs?

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magsi · 05/09/2007 16:09

So this is my situation......

Dd is 3.7 and was picked up by her friends mum from nursery at 11.30 today to be returned at 5.00. I originally wanted 4.00 but her friends mum said it would be no trouble to give her tea aswell, so I softened and said o.k. for 5.00. So this afternoon hubby (mother hasn't got my number) gets a call from her saying that dd wanted to stay over night . Now whilst I realise that a 3.7 year old is far too young to be 'asking' her parents to stop overnight at a friends, the mother should never have phoned to 'ask permission' for this in the first place! Now we are made out to look like 'baddies' in all of this. Can't believe her mother even encouraged the phonecall in the first place!

I'm not wrong am I?

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bozza · 06/09/2007 08:51

Well hula as it happens in our case it is both. My neighbour (opposite) and I became friends when our boys were babies and so they had their first sleepover aged 3 literally in the house across the road. Since then we have both had little girls, my friend has moved five mins walk away, the boys are best friends in the same year two class and the girls have just started doing sleepovers. The first one was when I was babysitting for my friend one evening and suggested the children come to stay but since we have done girl/boy swaps just for fun as well. And TBH when DD had to go in to hospital when DS had just turned 4 I was glad that I could just leave him at my friends happily.

So sleepovers not all bad. The worst thing is how tired the children are next day so I would never have one mid week or when we had much on and I make my 6yo have a nap the next day.

Hulababy · 06/09/2007 10:00

Oh I agree, not all bad at all. DD and her friend loved their sleepover

magsi - if you think DD is too young, then she is your DD and what you feel is probably right.

SSSandy2 · 06/09/2007 10:04

I don't mind dd (6) sleeping over somewhere. I didn't mind it when she was smaller either but I'm not having sleep-overs in my own home before she is about 12! No thanks.

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haychee · 06/09/2007 10:17

The younger the better i find! When they are younger they will sleep, whereas an older child who is not used to it will think its an exscuse to go bananas and mess about until 3am! My dd1 had sleepovers from age 3 but only really with one perticular family friend who is 3 yrs older than her.
Through the summer hols we had 3 of her friends from school come over to sleep (seperately), it was quite obvious which ones had had sleepovers before and which ones hadnt. One of them in particular was a nightmare was a liitle swine.

maisemor · 06/09/2007 15:45

Honest question here "why are you British people so scared of sleepovers?"

I am genuinly wondering.

When we lived abroad, my daugther made friends with this other little girl. They were both a little over 2 years old. She came to our house and played, and our daughter went to their house and played. They both started asking if they could sleep at eachother's house. We said yes. We asked what was their bedtime routine for her, and we told them our daugther's bedtime routine. The girl's had so much fun.

She also made friends with a little boy (she is a sociable little thing and always has been) and she went to sleep over at his house and he came over and stayed at our house for a night. If we had not moved we would have done continued doing this.

Our son however, is just not that kind of person. He would like if his friends came to stay at our house, but he does not like to sleep at somebody else's house. We respect that.

I think the other mother sounds really sweet, and she and her daughter obviously likes your daughter. I fail to see how that makes her a baddie!!?

Tortington · 06/09/2007 15:52

as a special birthday treat thing

wouldnt do it again

its a fucking nightmare

SSSandy2 · 06/09/2007 19:29

maisemor, dunno really maybe we are just more TENSE people than the Danes generally?

Alderberry · 06/09/2007 20:06

Everyones different I think

Depends on your child and how you think they'll cope with sleeping away from home. Girls in my Ds's class have been having sleepovers since reception, but DS has never expressed any interest in a sleepover and as he only became dry at night at the age of 5.5 I've been quite glad about that!!

Wouldn't be keen on my DD (age 4.5)going on a sleepover as I'd be too anxious about her being upset and being a burden to the other parents. I don't think shes confident enough to do it anyway. I'm surprised at the other Mum suggesting a spontaneous sleepover in such a young child but maybe shes a very relaxed easy going person who is more able to cope with that kind of thing than I am !!!

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