Why the competition

[Tatiebee97]

I need a rant....

There's this girl I know who's baby is 6 days older than my daughter. Every-time she messaged me it's about how well her daughter is doing. Which is great don't get me wrong, but she's there trying to give me advice that I just don't need. I'm a ftm but I've had experience with all my nieces and nephews. But then she's a ftm and had no experience, so I get this is all new and exciting. But I don't need to be told how to parent my own child.

She's started to wean her baby's at 4 months because she was to excited to wait and apparently her daughter was ready to eat a Christmas, bare in mind they was only 2 months old.... so she tells me I need to do it and to stop being a scaredy-cat and to just weaning her.

Another thing tummy time she messaged me says "oh my daughters had 3 hours of tummy time, you should get your daughter to do that don't want her under developed"..... excuse me?

Then say I've posted a picture of my daughter in insta then she'll put a pic of her daughter doing near enough the same thing on my comments saying "my .... does it better" or "isn't my .... cuter". My family have picked up on this so started to encourage me by comments saying how well my daughters doing. But then she will go and reply to them on my comments asking what they think of her daughter..... I'm literally like WTF.....

Not once have I ever commented anything nasty or anything I either like the comment or just heart it. Then the other day I posted a pic on insta of my daughter in her new buggy. I'm a lover of silver cross and I found the Pop at a great price so I got it. She's then comments saying " omg such a cheap pushchair you should of got her a My Babiee".

The last thing that's really gotten on my nerves... my daughter sleeps through the night has done since 12 weeks ish. But her daughter doesn't still wakes for milk every 3 hours. She then takes it upon herself to ring my health visitor and tell her I'm basically neglecting my baby because I don't give her milk at night... how am I neglecting my baby? She sleeps through the night 9pm to 9am. So then I had to have a meeting with my health visitor and social to explain she sleeps through the night I'm not neglecting her. My health visitor even said her self if baby sleeps through the night only feed them if they want it or underweight otherwise don't wake her up.

To think what is wrong with her? I mentioned social to her and she admitted it was her that rang... she was apparently worried..... does she need to be checked in to a psych ward?

. .how does she know who your health visitor is???

We under the same team

Block her, unfriend her or whatever.
There's seemingly nothing to be gained from communicating with her.

Cut her off. Block, delete, friendship over.

Erm...block her from sm and stop communicating with her? She’s a nutter. Job done.

It’s not rocket science is it? Unless you like the drama of it that is!

She sounds insane. Just block her. Does she live near you?

Just stop being friends with her. It really isn't that difficult.

Why are you even in contact with this person. I get some parents like to brag but ringing your HV !! Sorry, but that would have been the last straw for me. What did you say to her when she admitted it ? Tell her she's a nosey bint and you are done with her and then block her.

Well if she's reported you to the health visitor that would be the last straw for me and I'd have it out with her. All the other things I would have come back at her with something but I'd just tell her what a dick she is and leave her now

I thought this would be a standard case of an annoyingly competitive mum but this woman is either genuinely horrible or quite mentally ill. You don't say how you know her and whether you had previously cared about her but I'd either cut her out entirely or reach out to someone close to her and say that you're worried she's not coping well with the adjustment to motherhood, depending on the answer to that.

The HV incident wasn't competitive parenting, it was awful to do. Cut her off. She's not your friend.

Block her!

Since she admitted it to me I haven't spoken to her and she literally lives round the corner. She's seen me a few time while I've been out and every time she tried to come over but I just walk to opposite way. But she's literally the type to chase you down the road.

Awful. There’s competitive parenting & then there is slightly unhinged. I’d have hit the roof if anyone I knew had reported me to my HV. We certainly would not be friends anymore. It’s time you end your friendship & remove her from your life. Unfriend her, block her, if you are so inclined write her a message to explain why. Do not see her.

In all honesty, people like her are most likely jealous and insecure. She’s probably not particularly happy. But she needs help if she’s going as far as to contact the HV service about your daughters sleep.. that’s a step far too far!

@LisaSimpsonsbff we knew each other but wasn't close. Then when she found out I was pregnant too she tried to act like my "BFF"

I'd be careful if I were you, definitely try to avoid her and cut contact but be as nice about it as you can. She seems like one of those people who go a bit nuts when they feel slighted.

If this is how she behaves when she imagines you are friends then I wouldn't like to think how she treats her enemies!