Birth gap?

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I had a few complications after my last birth and a bit of life got in the way. We are ready to TTC now-ish and my daughter is 2 yrs 3 months old. All my friends and NCT group have had another one already. Can someone reassure me that (all being well) a 3-3.5 year gap isn't awful and my kids won't never relate to or play with one another?!

Tbh, I am quite pleased for me that I don't have a toddler and baby right now, as my daughter is very physical and needs a lot of activity to tire her out so would be a bit stir crazy if I had a newborn (will have to have a second section this time so it would be helpful to wait until she is settled in pre school so that someone else can tire her out in those early months!), but I sort of feel like the odd one out and need a bit of reassurance!!

I can't answer from personal experience as only have one so far but I am from a family of five, first four have two years in between and last one was four year gap- the last two (of which four year gap) are BY FAR the closest then any of the others (only two years gap), so i don't know if that makes any sense or is of any help!! Xx

Five years between mine. They love each other so much and play together well. I think a 3/3.5 year gap is perfect.

Anything under 5 years isn't a big gap, don't worry!

My son has just turned two I am in no rush to have another any time soon. Ideally I will wait until he's at school. I honestly couldn't think of anything worse than having another now. He's amazing and sleeps really well etc but I am run ragged! I just want to enjoy him :)
I don't think age gaps matter. Just relax.

Oh and that's with the majority of mynct friends having had their second already. I actually feel so content with just my one for now when I see them juggling two.

DC1 and DC4 have just over 3.5 yrs between them and get on brilliantly. Only hassle imo with the gap is the school run. I much preferred a preschooler/toddler when home with the baby.

My second was 2.3 when we decided to try again. Thinking it would take ages again.
Happened instantaneously.
Baby will be here a month before dc1 turns 3 and I’m panicking.
I know Itl be fine in long run but a 3.5-4 year gap sounds ideal to me.
Dc1 still not out of nappies as I hoped and not yet in nursery.
But will be from September.
Life is easy with 1 and would have been so happy with just one but there was a lingering feeling of what if and idealistic thoughts which I hope come to reality

Thanks very much to all of you lovely ladies!

I know it sounds crazy, but I think I have just suddenly hit that point where I am hormonally and physically just that bit more charged to have one - broody I guess, so I guess seeing others having their fully cooked little'uns has affected me unexpectedly, if that makes sense!

And @NemophilistRebel Congratulations!! A nearly 3 year gap should be lovely for you too and I am sure it will be totally fine :)

I have a 3 year gap between 2 of mine. It's great and a lot easier than the less than two year gap I had first time.

I've actually been told this is the ideal gap so good for you!

I have a 6 year gap between my boys. They've always been great together. My 16 year old has no problem sitting and doing a bit of lego with the 10 year old, or playing on the xbox with him.

I have a 3 year gap between my eldest daughter and middle son (19 + 16), they were close when they were preteens, then went through a phase of hating each other, but now they're back to getting along, well having a non screaming conversation at least.

I’m due in a couple weeks & there’ll be almost a 3 year gap between mine. Which is exactly what I intended (if not a bit bigger but we fell pregnant really quickly!) Personally, no way on earth I could have done the two under two thing. Just not for me. I found one under two hard enough. And we’ve had a few months of some seriously terrible twos between September - Jan! But coming out the other side now thank goodness! The thought of doing that with another, no thank you!

I wanted my DD potty trained & relatively independent before having a newborn again.. and she’s both. She happily plays by herself, was potty trained at 24 months & is such a proper little person now. You can chat to her & she follows instructions & understands life & her weekly routine as much as a toddler can do so!