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Anxiety about school

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Kel55 · 24/02/2020 10:10

Hi just looking for advise if parents have been through similar situations.
My 10 year old daughter has anxiety about going to school. She has had it for a few years but it is getting worse. She cries from the moment she opens her eyes right to the classroom. When I pick her up she is usually grumpy saying she has tummy ache or felt sick all day.
She gets worried at bed time about school the next day,
She has recently in the last few months started getting upset at wkends. She will start crying and wen u ask her what’s wrong she’s worrying about school.
I’ve been in contact with the school and once a week she goes and sits with the school councillor.
When we ask her why she doesn’t like school she just doesn’t want to leave me.
She has lots of friends and has no problems in school it’s just separation anxiety from me.
I’m wondering if I should go to the drs about this. The school have said there’s no need to and it’s something she should grow out of.
It is very distressing though to see her so upset everyday.
Yesterday was the last day of half term and she cried the whole day.
Has any parents been through the same/similar? Did u get any help?

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amirah97 · 24/02/2020 10:33

HI, I need some advice, my son was offered a bursary for year 7 and 8 at a reputable prep school, recently he sat a 13+ exam at a school recommended by the current school he attends and didn't do as well and was not offered a place. Doesn't the current school have duty of care towards my son, who is devastated. I will be hearing from the Head soon, what can I expect from him, what questions should I ask too. Please advise

Thisisverytricky · 24/02/2020 10:35

Kel55 - that sounds very stressful for you. I suggest you ask for a meeting with her class teacher and maybe the senco at school to see what else can be done to help her.

To the second poster- it would be best to start your own thread to get advice about your son

LIZS · 24/02/2020 10:48

@amirah97 you need to start a separate thread about it. The head may be able to suggest a less selective secondary option and negotiate a later application process. Are state schools an option for an in year application?

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Herringbone31 · 24/02/2020 10:55

@amirah97

The head doesn’t have to do anything. Bursaries are just financial . Though your son has to be able to keep up. It’s not the schools fault he didn’t do as well as they thought

Now. @Kel55. Oh my lovely. I’m there with you all the way. I’ve got the same with mine

Right. We have a jar. That gets filled with marbles. Every time they do well going into school. They get a marble. When it’s full. They get to choose something to make a memory. So an activity.

The heart hand. Draw a heart on your hand and on hers. Tell her when she touches it. You think of her.

Draw round your hands on a bit of fabric. The. Colour it in. You have her hand. She has yours.

I’ve got a few more xx

Thisisverytricky · 24/02/2020 19:54

Herringbone, I love those ideas!

Teabay · 26/02/2020 22:56

Spray a bit of your perfume onto her cardigan sleeve. At times of stress she can sniff it and know you're at work / home doing just fine.
Also the biro heart on palm of hand.
Also small transition item (pebble, button, crystal etc) for pocket or school bag or pencil case.
It WILL pass.
Be breezy, brisk, don't feed the anxiety more without meaning to.

SavoyCabbage · 26/02/2020 23:01

Is the counsellor actually counselling her? Are you able to talk to the counsellor?

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