Would you judge a headband for 4 month old??

[Johnskymberlina]

Hi all

So as the title says but I'm not saying one of those thick wide bands just a small band with a tiny bow on or something?? One of my twins has a mop, so much so they could see the amount of hair on the ultrasound. It is all different lengths obviously as it's still sprouting out but no matter how much I tame it into place, put clips in they just fall out. Unless I hairspray it I can't think of another option?? I really don't want to cut it, it's too nice!! She's a true dark brunette and gorgeous - if course she is I'm biased!!! But she just looks unkempt and scruffy?? Again just a need basis my other twin won't need one as she's bald. I don't want to be judged though??
Also I would follow all the safety advice, not whilst sleeping etc

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For someone asking if they would be judged laughing at others who like that look is judging isn’t it? There’s lots of things that aren’t to my personal taste, most of Mumsnet probably wear/have/do them but I don’t judge them for it- just not my taste

Whenever I see headbands on babies my only thought is ‘how the fuck have they got it to stay on their heads?’

Neither of mine would tolerate anything on their heads. Hats would be ripped off and chucked on the floor in minutes!

Dd had a lot of hair. She's 20 months now and it's already half way down her back. We used bobbles, hair slides and mousse...which had the added benefit of making sure random passerbys only touched her hair once. I hate headbands on babies regardless of their hair situation.

I wouldn’t if the baby has hair and it’s a slim, unfussy, hairband.

Clips I’d judge - it takes a nano second for them to pull one out and stuff it in their mouth - dangerous.

You do get used to them looking a bit scruffy though & no one worth worry about cares about a baby looking like they’ve got a case of bed hair!

A tiny bit of gel can keep things in place, especially at the sides. A tiny bit, not a full on Mohawk!

DD1 had a couple, lots of long dark hair, I did used to put it up in hairbands too, you know, the spring onion look . Sometimes I even put three or four spring onions in, poor, poor, child.

DD2 - Not at all, she had very short, fine, blond hair. Looked like a boy.

This is the only issue I think you are going to get with twins. If you only put it on one twin, it will be assumed the other is a boy?

Meh, DD2 was always assumed to be a boy, used to dress her in lots of blue too, people are very blinkered where babies are concerned. Dress them how you wish is what I say, my poor DD's were testament to that .

I think they are a safety issue... but more importantly I don't understand why you just don't cut it? Surely she will be more comfortable with a trim rather than something around her head? I say that as someone whose mother refused to cut her hair for years... it was a nightmare of trying to control it but also horrible having it brushed and detangled. I remember crying every time it was washed...

My dd had straight hair that always flopped straight down into her eyes. I went for the little hair bobble on top of her head so she looked like a cute little pineapple. Do whatever you want that works.

I have a twin who also had a mass of straight hair on top and gorgeous curls under. We did the hair elastic top knot to keep the straight stuff out of her eyes. She looked so cute.

We also did the pineapple. Stayed in for hours, when clips would last minutes.

I used bobbles to give my dd the pineapple look, and just took them out when she slept. I did have to give in and get her fringe cut though, after she had a cold and was waking up every morning with her hair glued down her face with snot 🤢🤧
Luckily the fringe turned out to be really, really cute!! And she looks less scruffy and unkempt with it, too. Bless them 😂 I love mop top babies!

Oh. My daughter had hair like this

She’s now 5 and it’s her pride and joy. It’s below her bottom length wise. We cut it constantly!!! Yet it just grows and grows and grows

It’s dark brown. Thick. Super shiny.

I think anyone who would judge is just sad.

I personally didn't use them but couldn't care less if someone else does, as long as they are supervised while wearing it and removed when they are asleep for safety reasons people shouldn't care.

No because I am not a judgy twat.

We'll need a photo to judge... go on, please! Sounds lovely.

My friends baby was like thus and she used hair bands. No judgement at all even though I normally hate hair bands on babies, but this is a functional one so it's different.

My three kids have been baldies so I'm quite jealous of all these hairy babies. DS2 is still bald and he's nearly 3!

If I was going to judge it would be on the hairspray not the headband but purely because the baby would be breathing it in even in small quantities. I do however understand why you do it. I was judged so much on things out of my control.

I say go ahead and do the headband just ensuring its doesn't slip and cause a hazard. I'm not a big fan but its not my baby and I have used them when they came with an outfit for dd.

If you feel people are judging you when out and about just remember a judgement is other peoples unwanted forceful opinion and means sod all.

I would not judge no.

Ooh sorry need to add that I haven't bought them yet and I have not used hairspray, that's what I'm trying to avoid! Think I will order one and see what it's like, if not it's bobbles or a cut is the last resort

I do find it hard for people not to judge or have their little say, we get stopped ALL THE TIME for people to look at them so just waiting for a headband comment

If you do use hairspray spray it on the comb and run through the hair. Still works but reduces the need to spray and breathe it in.

They look chavvy as fuck on small babies who don't need them.

But on a baby that has long hair and needs it for practical reasons, go ahead. No reason at all why you shouldn't use one.

I used to judge (mildly) when I saw babies with pineapples on their heads. Then my DD got to that stage and I realised why people did it. I know people are judging and I don't give a fuck! It keeps her fringe out of her snot, that's all that matters to me!

Ok so I've bought a little band with a grey bow on and I'll see how it goes, anything is better than nothing at this stage seeing as it just won't stop growing!!!

I put headbands on my DD currently 11 months old she's got long hair was born with a mop of hair but it's only recently it's become longer and more in her eyes although she likes to pull them off more than keep them on her head she follows me I'm just waiting till she's older to be able to use a clip to pin her fringe back or use a bobble instead.
I wouldn't judge if you were using it to keep hair out of your DDs hair in fact I don't think I would judge anyone hair or no hair do what's right for you and your DD

A comfortable chunky cotton one I wouldn't think twice but I saw someone recently with a very young baby wearing what was essentially a giant elastic bobble around their head with a bow on it. It looked really uncomfortable like it was going to leave a mark like when you have one on your wrist that's a bit tight.

There's nothing wrong with accessories as they are safe and comfortable to wear. Not everyone wants to just use pristine plain white babygros like many on Mumsnet.

Not in your situation, sounds very sensible! A headband on a baby with no hair however - I'd absolutely judge the parent(s). Why on earth would you want a beautiful baby to feel uncomfortable//look ridiculous