Help!!

[TheMuppetMuggle]

What am i doing wrong?
Am training my DD 2.5yrs

For Instance yesterday went on there good as gold, albeit a couple of accidents.
Today not having any of it!!
Must admit i copped this morning, (didn't hit or shout) because whats annoying me she knows what she has to do and shes not doing it!

Are you rewarding her with a small treat when she is successful? With my older two dcs I used to give them a small sweet like a jelly baby when they used the potty or toilet and made a chart with stickers too. Once they got the hang of it we then used to say that they had to use the potty three times to get the sweet and then, finally I said that if they used it all day they would get a bigger treat at the end of the day. I gradually phased out the rewards and before they knew it they were using the potty without any fuss. Also I found that I had to keep taking them to sit on the potty at regular intervals rather than asking if they needed to go - they always say no even when they do ime. HTH

muppet id say stop stressing you really need to be in the school of 'oh well, better luck next time, maybe if you do a wee wee/poo poo on the potty you can have a treat' (sticker, choc button etc) then phase out the treats ev entually!

also keep the potty in eye shot for a while, it was abotu a month before i could move the potty to the bathroom with dd or she'd forget where to go and do it in the corner!

Bagpuss - I have a sticker chart and a bag of Jelly Beans we took DD out at the weekend and she picked her own panties.
We have also said if she goes all day, we'll get her a big treat.

But today she just doesn't seem to want to know.

id say dont fret (although numerous changes of clothes are a pita) just let her not bother (although dont put nappy back on) and maybe she'll pick up again tomo!

We get up in the morning and she goes (of her own accord) and sits on potty, then i continue to put her on every 30mins or so.
But shes just having none of it!

i am in midlle of all this myself but think we have just cracked it. My feeling is that there are a few skills they need to know
a) being able to do wees and poos on the potty
b) being able to tell when they need to go and act accordingly
c) being able to go when asked
d) being able to hold on where necesarry.

Obviously the first skill to teach is a) but once this has been cracked it is not obvious whether to teach c) or b) first. [d) just comes with time!] Some children respond better to being reminded and going when told others much prefer to decide themselves. it looks like your dd might prefer to have potty near her and take herself (after some gentle hints) rather than to be continually asked to go.

W&C - I think your right, my DD is stubborn but knows what she has to do, just doesn't want to do it today grrr

Thanks for all your imput ladies

muppet good luck, soon you'll end up with a dd like mine (2.10) who takes herself into the bathroom and the first you know about it is the shouts of 'I'M FINISHED'!

Thanks Sleepless - i hope that happens soon