Clicky leader

[anothermumhere]

Ok I need some advice how to deal with a rude group leader
After a day on the go I collect my
Child from group no one talks to me, stares and I feel like a idiot, 3 months in it is still the same.
I went to trips and pay my fees still I'm like on the out of some Click.
I begun meeting her at the door to avoid this.. We all get a email to meet inside, it's not safe to walk thru a small carpark area, We miss info.. yet we are emailed about every detail of any events & I am at the front door.
I have really tried but I feel so uncomfortable.
Drop my child to camp I say let's say goodbye the leader yells to get over here so we don't get to say goodbye.. I wonder off then return to say goodbye wondering shall I pull her out of this group in the big picture and way it seems so strict.
Watching my child (8) she seems like a scared animal and so did her friend. This is a group not the military I thought.
I went to meet them at the park yet again hello to everyone but I'm in the background feeling like a social reject.
Why be a leader if you can not be civil..
we go to another group it's a smile hi wave and not judgemental as this bunch of working & upper class snobs.
I walked past the past leader leaving and asked are they all set I said I hope so and smiled when I wanted to have a full blow out of her bitch behaviour as I now see it
I can't continue with this long term
I'll ask my child about the weekend but I think it's best she goes else where.

not judgemental as this bunch of working & upper class snobs

So, are you middle class then or a member of the underclass?

Just leave the groups if you don't like them, other people obviously get a lot out of them though if they're still going so I doubt it's about cliques.

You do know this group is for your child not you? If it's anything like the group I run i am too busy managing a group of 5-7 year olds to make small talk with parents. Never thought they might think I was being rude! If you really think they are being rude and your daughter isn't enjoying it just leave.

Cliques can seem really nasty. I have a group of specific mum friends and we are always meeting up or taking our kids to groups together etc BUT just because we have our own close group of friends we are never rude.
Some groups or cliques can indeed be really unwelcoming. Not even just a case of not pulling a new person in but to exclude them completely from conversations or giving them the side eye if they try and address anyone in the group. That's what it sounds like is perhaps going on here?
OP, my advice would be to keep going. Hold your head high. You don't need to be chatty with them. You don't need them to be your mates.

However, you really should go inside as requested. Meeting your kids outside has already been mentioned in the emails and when running a group, the leaders do need to see the kids go home with the proper adult. Meeting them outside means they can't see the child leave safely.