Unsupportive partner....advice please

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Hi all
I need some advice on how to deal with an unsupportive partner
We have a 17 month old daughter & he gave up helping after she was a week old.
He will change the odd nappy, take her clothes off but then leave them on the floor otherwise that is about it
I feel like a single partner yet his there doing next to nothing. I get resentful towards him for it.
He moans at me for being tired & when I point out he doesn’t help me he says nothing.
He moans he needs alone time at weekends & I have to take her out the house
He will give her unhealthy treats & drinks just to annoy me & doesn’t listen when I point out she shouldn’t have them or the amount he is giving her
To make it worse we live with his mum & are all cramped into a small bedroom & I have next to nothing of mine there. I have a 3 bed flat & he refuses to live there with me.
How I feel I just want to leave & go home & do it on my own
Anyone else had an experience like this? Any advice I would be thankful

Move into your flat with your child.

Live in your own flat with your baby. If he wants to be a family and live with you and you’re happy for that to happen he can come to you. Sorry but all of you sharing a bedroom is insane. If he doesn’t want to be part of you and your baby’s life then you’re better off without him.

Bless you. I was most shocked at him wanting me time at weekends. How completely selfish. It's easy to sit here and say leave him, but that is my overwhelming feeling. Life is short and he doesn't sound like he makes you happy. He sounds utterly useless and more of a drain than a positive influence. Consider what effect this will have on your child in the long run, and if you can see him
changing. I would be concerned about the example he sets to your daughter of what a man should be. Would you want her to end up with someone like him? That might help make up your mind. Good luck with your decision.

You do it all on your own anyway...leave for good, fuck would I be living like that it I had a 3 bed place

The weekend is tomorrow. Take your baby to your flat and spend the day there. See how much better it feels to have space, your stuff around you, and only one baby to cope with. There's your answer.

He adds nothing to your life , go home .

Leave him. Immediately. I don't understand why you even need advice. He's horrible and you have your own place to live. Get packing.

Jees he sounds like an incredibly immature waste of space. How old is he?

Move home to your own flat. It's his loss. Doesn't sound like he's making your life easier in any way, and an awful role model for your child too boo.

Best of luck OP.

Go home and do it on your own, ditch this fool. You'll be far happier single.

Please start living at your own flat! It's shocking to hear you're living out of a room at his mum's when you have a spacious place of your own. I know it's scary staying separately from your partner but you must put yourself first. It must be hell looking after a little child in a cramped room - no privacy for yourself. It sounds like you'll be happier with more space.
Does your boyfriend want to be at his mums because she looks after him? It's unusual. I think if you went to your flat he would reluctantly end up going there too. Just sounds like if you won't change then he's not going to force you and things will stay the way they are x

Why don’t you live in your flat? Do you currently have tenants there?