Children fighting - how to deal with it?

[Remmy123]

I have 2 boys who were once best mates, now at the age of 11 and 8 they fight all the time.

The youngest tends to provoke the eldest, it could be little things such as eating loud .. making silly noises - generally winding up.

It then escalates to bickering or physical.

I literally really dislike being in their company (together) even sitting at the table ends in disaster.

When one isn't there it's bliss (I also had a 2 year old DD)

I know siblings argue but it's getting to a point it's making me feel shit!

What's the best wY of dealing with this?

Thanks

I really think it is important to let them learn how to resolve there own battles and let them sort it out between them.

Sometimes a blanket "I don't care who started it, everyone stop fighting now" works. Don't mediate as to who is right or wrong - just end the fighting. Because often the one who "starts it" as such has been enduring the other one deliberating winding them up for ages.
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Siblings without rivalry book is good.

Watch the physical contact, can become a bad habit.