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Am i going crazy?

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Apple35 · 20/02/2020 19:45

I had a baby girl via c section at 32 + 6 due to placental abruption. She is now starting to feed at 2 weeks old and is still in the special nursery. I have been advised that there is no concerns at present but she required oxygen at birth and was floppy but only stayed on oxygen for 6 hours and was on air for 2 days.
I spoke with a doctor who advised me her acid levels in her blood were fine and that she is unlikely to have issues in the future but i just had to ask the doctor more questions today regarding my placental abruption at 33 weeks but wish I never! I was advised my baby gasped for air when she came out via emergency c section so asked the doc if that was normal. She advised my baby came out floppy too but was given oxygen and was soon breathing as you would expect and that they think she came out in time. Her apgar scores were 4, 8 and 8. She was only on oxygen for 6 hours and just air for 2 days.
I am becoming obsessed by this and I am so worried incase she has developmental problems. The doc thinks the risks were minimised but obviously can't guarantee it. I am not sure if this is part of my post natal depression / anxiety but i am getting really upset by this and scared incase she has issues or if she is brain damaged - i know ott thinking there!
Had a referral to the obstitrician so will discuss the birth then but not sure i want to now. She is progressing well and now taking her bottle feeds so no indicators or concerns with her.
Am I going crazy??? The way i see it i should be enjoying her and thinking we will face any challenges together as a family but i can't let this go. I am getting mental health support at the moment too and a referral to the perinatal mental health team. But as mentioned, am i crazy or is this normal???? We are still in the special nursery so maybe too much time on my hands??

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mopunbucket · 20/02/2020 20:55

It is normal to worry terribly about your baby and to be affected by what has happened, and it will happen again every time you sense a threat in the future, because you love your baby - but - the more time and energy and attachment and touch you focus directly on your baby now the better she will do, and even if there was some affect, what you do now, the love and security you give now will have a positive impact on her brain.

One of my dc suffered a small amount of brain injury at 2 but you would not know it now, many years on. The baby's brain is effectively developing, being wired up, from now until 3 years and so the sort of activities, stimulation, love, contact you will give will all have an active positive impact.

And lastly you are in the best place for your baby now, she is being monitored and looked after.

I hope that that helps a bit.

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