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tired1245 · 20/02/2020 17:39

I have a 4 week old who just loves to be held, majority of the time I put her down, she cries, she happily settles lying on my chest, over my shoulder, or just lying next to me. At night time in her next 2 me. She'll not settle, be up every hour, and just won't be happy. I co-slept with her the past few nights and she only woke up twice throughout the night and went straight back to sleep after feeding.
My partners saying I'm being too soft and that she'll learn to be on our own in her cot, and that I need to stop letting her get her own way with her being to clingy and wanting to be with my all the time. He says, 'it's only crying' 'it's not nice but they start learning straight away'
Is he right in saying I'm being too soft?
Or should I just enjoy her being like this (which I am) and carry on with what I'm doing? I don't want her to cry. If she likes being near me and that comforts her then that's what I want to do?
Thankyou x

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Valkarie · 20/02/2020 18:22

She has been carried by you her entire life until 4 weeks ago, it's all she knows. You will never regret giving cuddles, she won't let you when she is older. There is lots of research that children grow up less clingy if their attachment need a are met when they are small. Plus evolution has programmed them to want to be near you to provide for them and keep them safe from predators.

Selfsettling3 · 20/02/2020 18:49

Nope he is wrong.

Show him this
www.unicef.org.uk/babyfriendly/wp-content/uploads/sites/2/2018/04/happybaby_leaflet_web.pdf

Moonflower12 · 20/02/2020 19:25

Google 4th trimester. It's only humans that keep our young separated from us and only in recent times. Enjoy this time with her. In a blink of an eye she'll be grown up.
Congratulations on your new little person.

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NickyLou8 · 20/02/2020 19:31

Absolutely not! If both you and baby are happy and content then you should carry on. Your baby loves you and wants to be next to you Smile

ToTravelIsToLive · 20/02/2020 20:16

Your baby has spent around 40 weeks inside you warm, constantly fed and surrounded by noise both inside and what she heard through your belly. A huge, cold cot in a silent room would be terrifying after that. It's a tough time but they are only small for such a short time

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