Want to work!

[Bluebell121]

Hey everyone , I’m looking to discuss my problem lol!
Im a young mum still with father of children have 3 children 1,2&7 ( 7!year old step child) really wanting to go to work as I never got to do it before children as I have severe anxiety and couldn’t go out my house speak to people or even talk on the phone , but now I’m better and I want to work to show my children the right way of life and what I want them to do ( not saying benefits are bad I just don’t want to be on them)
Trouble is, do I wait for my youngest who is 16 month to start nursery January 2021 as partner works and I’m currently the sole parent picking 2 eldest up form 2 different schools/nursery.. When my youngest goes to nursery he will spend 8 month with his sister in the same nursery till his sister them goes into big a school reception!! Everyone that I know has told me to wait and spend time with them till the youngest starts nursery becuase I will be busy working if I want to afford my rent and bills etc.. what’s your point on this?

Will your added income cover the cost of nursery so that overall as a family you aren’t worse off? And what does your partner plan to do to cover childcare and the school runs for your children and particularly his child who he really should take primary responsibility for?

It isn’t your job to manage all the running around. He should be doing an equal share too while you are working and I’m assuming his child also has a mother who should be balancing that care with him.

Affording nursery does get a lot easier after the turn 3, though you probably also qualify for 2 year funding if you are on benefits now, plus there is tax free childcare.

Hi Hun , step child mother not involved , partner full time work I get child care free atm but if I did work it was agreed to split all child care as we split bills and such already xx

Well, they won’t remember you working under the age of about 4/5, but the quality of their care is important. You’ve got the rest of their lives to show them a brilliant work ethic. I’d think about seeing what’s available part time that might have some prospects for ramping up to more as they get older.

@peanutbuttermarmite absolutely that's a good idea! I'm really happy about that idea actually I want them to see me as a working mum and so excited to see them when getting home!

How do you split bills etc if only one of you is working and you live together? If he works full time you can't be getting much in benefits. Not, I suppose, that it's any of my business. Just strikes me as odd. Surely for all intents and purposes you are a stay at home mum and benefits only minimally come in to it..

Anyway, personally I would get a job. Working makes me feel human and I don't know how SAHPs do it. That and you're not married, no one is putting money in your pension, the longer you're out of work the harder it is to walk in to a job, etc. I'd be scared of getting to 28 or 29 and having absolutely zero qualifications, no job history, partner leaving, and then you're up shit creek.

But I always was a worrier...

And to add - I'd probably get a part time job. Childcare is EXPENSIVE.

I have qualifications , I am currently on disability for something so my money isn't effected Hun , I'm looking to get off this and get to feel human too