Mother in law issues

[Mamaofbabyboy19]

So before I start I’m very new to all of this but I really need some advice..

So I had my first baby, March 2019 with my husband of 3 years and life is brilliant not perfect but brilliant. We live with my husbands parents which again at the start before we had baby was amazing, until about 6 months ago, I’ve noticed our son used to be very laid back like I could leave him in his play pen for a couple of minutes to do dishes or bottles or go put some clothes away but recently he’s been crying to be picked up, so I politely told everyone in the house when he cry’s unless it’s for a bottle or food or whatever you no just leave him as I no nothings wrong but as soon as he cries for ANYTHING she runs to pick him up and I have to tell her to put him down as nicely as possible (I have so much respect for this women as my mother in law, my husbands mother and my sons nanny). But now it’s come to the point I have to keep our son in our bedroom through the day as when I’m doing my odd jobs she is constantly around him picking him up.. now I probably sound so nasty but this is every mintue of every day not even exaggerating here either.. and I’m just thinking to myself if I allow this to happen when we move out (which is very soon) he’s going to have my life where I can’t leave him to go do something for a couple of minutes because he wants picked up...

And just to add when I’ve addressed this issue with her, told her not to pick him up for a few day so he knows he can’t be picked up when cries she just sees it that I’m being horrible and I’m her world a b**ch but I’m really not and it’s putting massive stains on my relationship with her and also my marriage because my husband constantly has her back and sees it as I’m just being nasty towards her but I’m generally not!! I need serious help ASAP! 😭😭😭 thanks in advance, sorry for long post and lack of grammar lol

Wow! Your Mil lets you stay there and she loves your child and is trying to help you all out.. so your solution is to shut your crying baby in your bedroom so that no one can sooth them if they are upset?
I’m glad your child has a loving grandparent!

You’re so rude, op, if you don’t want people to spend their time typing out (legible, punctuated) paragraphs to you, don’t start a thread, eh?
If you only wanted replies like ‘yor bubbz yor rules hun x’ the site for that is netmums.

@Electrical I totally agree with you. Don’t bother starting a thread here if you only want people to agree with you.

I see your point and it would about me too. Don't get disheartened by people misunderstanding your original post. It did sound like you left him to cry when I see now that's not what you meant! I can see what you mean is you can't put your baby down without her coming to pick him up at the slightest noise. That is frustrating indeed. It's good you're moving out because it's about time your little family had privacy from the grandparents.

I’m sorry if I came across as being rude that was never my intention at all, I’m sorry to all you ladies who just popped on here to offer support, some a bit critical but it was just to much me reading, I don’t think personally I’m in the wrong for my situation as it’s a lot more complicated to even explain in fully, I’ve came up with a solution to my problem and that was to sit down with her and have a talk about this issue and some other major issues we have, the outcome of that conversation wasn’t good! She’s not a nice lady even though she is my husbands mother and my sons nanny, we see parenting differently and as do many of us on this thread! But thanks again to everyone that commented I do appreciate the comments(some more than others) but thank you ❤️