Husband abandonded me and 3 yr old

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4 weeks ago my husband walked out on me and our child, not only walked out but left the country to go back to our country of birth. He hasn't made contact regarding custody, money for the child or anything. Just argues, I have had to tell him not to speak to me unless it is civil and about our child.
But I can handle myself one thing I have no idea about it how do you talk to a 3 year old about this, its been weeks and every now and again he asks where he is, I usually panic and say at work... Is this the right thing to do when its a three year old or should I consider telling him he has gone and isn't coming back?
please help

Are you sure he wont come back into your child's life?

How is your 3 year old taking his absence?

I would say rules are, be honest (but obviously if you dont know what happening yourself this isnt easy!) Get support for yourself as much as is possible, and make fully sure that the child knows it absolutely is not your fault. Also don't speak Ill of daddy even though I'd totally get if you wanted to!
I'm no expert and I hope someone comes along with better advice. If you're sure he has gone for good I would say something such as 'Its not nice but sometimes mummies and daddies dont get on so just us now'.

Sorry, absolutely not THEIR fault. Not that it is yours either !

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Was it out of the blue, OP?

I know this post is about your DS, but how shocking for you.

Does H have relatives here who your DS is close to, who he could maintain a relationship with, or is likely to see?

You must be livid, and devastated. What a shitbag.

I think I would say that Daddy has moved to another country. The “just us” as you’ve already put it, is probably the best way of saying it. You could say that you don’t think he’s coming back, if that’s the truth.

It seems from your post that DS doesn’t seem upset. Perhaps their relationship wasn’t very strong? - That must seem like a godsend now, I suppose.