Partners parents want baby for the night

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When our child was newborn my mum helped me out a lot including nighttimes so on the odd occasion when I sleep at my parents I feel comfortable for my mum to watch our baby at night.

Our child is only a few months old and my partners parents who live quite far away have asked to have our child for the night...But I just don’t feel ready for that to happen.

Am i being unreasonable? And At what age did you feel comfortable with other people looking after your little ones overnight?

It’s really up to you and what’s right for baby. There’s no way in hell I would leave my daughter, who is nearly 3, with my in laws even during the day because they live abroad and think they can swan in and out of her life when it’s convenient for them. My
Mum on the other hand has been here since she was born and has her overnight every few weeks so my husband and I can have some time to ourselves.

Why? Generally having babies overnight means disturbed sleep? Why would you want that.

That's not to help you. Nor is it of benefit to your child.

@JudyCoolibar my thoughts exactly 😂
Great name by the way, one of my favourite shows!

Personally I was always perfectly confident that DD's grandparents were capable of looking after her so she went for sleepovers from 8 weeks 🤷

But each to their own.

This is all about them and not the baby! A baby of this age is too young to gain anything positive from a strange place, strange people overnight. It will be scary for the baby.
Tell them that they can come and stay, and babysit for you if they want to experience bedtime routine etc.
I am all for children age three and up getting used to sleeping over at places without parents, developing ability to sleep in beds that aren't their own, but that is part of the growing up process and not an appropriate experience for a baby. They are usually more difficult to settle in new places as anyone who has had to take a baby to a hotel will tell you.

I honestly think the overnight obsession is a territory-marking thing, in many cases. Sort of staking a claim. But a child, let alone a baby, is not a toy for everyone to get a 'go' with. I suspect there have been noises around it being 'unfair' that your mother has had access to your baby overnight (with you present, AIUI)?

My ILs had DD at about 4 months when we went away for the night for a birthday treat. But, these are the same ILs who gave up working to look after her four days a week so I trust them and their deep love for her implicitly.

Very personal decision. Might have helped that DD was formula fed, and ILs saw her very regularly as a tiny baby anyway.