Potty training is making me a bad bad mother!!

[SANA]

DS is 2 and 7 mths and great in every way. He has been ready to potty trained for a while but i havent decided to tackle it till 3 weeks ago when both DH and I were at home. I just couldnt face doing it on my own as 30 wks PG. It was all going well till last week when DS suddenly decided he was going to poo in his panties and this has become a pattern which I cant seem to break. I lost the plot with him today, I asked him if he wanted to go for a poo and he said no and then did one in his panties and I lost it and told him he was dirty and i just went on and on until he was crying and I could hear myself but just couldnt stop. I was so upset with him and he was crying and thne i looked at his small face and then i started crying and he looked so confused and I kept telling him i loved him becuase i felt so bad for behaving like i did.

I put him to bed a while ago and i just feel like crap for telling him off when i know this isnt going to get anywhere. Everytime he has a accident i just feel myself withdrawing from him and this is not good and today it all came out. I dont know why potty training is making me so nasty, i have never been like this with him before and i usually have the patience of a saint with him. In retrospect i realise know I wasnt ready for the potty training ( he was and is). please tell me if u have ever felt like this

Don't worry you are human. I lost it with DD at that age and she has been dry ever since

SANA, I have done this more times than I like to think as ds1 regressed and pooed in his pants every day for months when I was pg with ds2. I've put him back in nappies at 3.8. And our relationship is never better, I don't yell anymore, he's happy as larry and neither of us care if he's in nappies until Christmas! It's really hard just bending down isn't it at 30 weeks and the smell of poo and knowing you've got to wash them etc. It does all build up until finally you lose it. Totally understandable, don't beat yourself up about it. Take a step back, put him in nappies and make it all easier on yourself. Taking a few weeks out isn't going to harm anything. And I went on yelling with ds1 he's ended up getting all anxious etc. NOt worth it for the sake of potty training and he's only 2.7, it can wait anothe month or whenever really. Important thing is you enjoy these last few months with your boy alone

Awww SANA you poor thing and your poor DS.

Is it just poos that he has problems with?
My DS is 3 3/4, will be 4 in December and he still won't poo in toilet or potty. He is brilliant with pees though.
I've been assured it's just a boy thing and it will come. Any time I have tried to get him on toilet he will hold it and not go. I'm not stressing about it yet as I don't want to constipate him which is what happened first time I tried.

Good luck, don't feel bad. Your son would maybe regress after new baby comes, so you'd have to go through it all again anyway.

Maybe try him with pull-up pants or similar (I like the Lidl ones) and let him pee when he can and won't matter so much about the poos. Though I realise some people hate pull ups.

Good luck, have some chocolate, M x

You are doing really well, it is soooooo easy to loose it sometimes especially when you feel you/he had it sorted!
To be honest with you potty training just before a new baby arrives is sometimes not the best time. It's possible he will regress when the baby arrives anyway.
You are exactly right though you have to be ready to do it as well as him. You must be consistant in your approach to him and try not to confuse him by flitting in and out of nappies throughout the day. Nappies should only be for bed time as not to confuse. Can you take 2-3 days to go back to the begginging with him at home with all your attention, short outing perhaps on day 3 or 4 etc...

I'm not a huge fan of pull-ups personally, the idea is ok for ease and the acion etc but at the end of the day we are trying to teach our children to replace a nappie with pants so I can't rally see how they help. Have to agree Horsemadgal Lidl nappies are FAB.

I'm on day 3 with my dd 2.1yrs, I was close to loosing it this evening when she pooed her pants and then trod in it on purpose after we had removed them. Grrrrr! I am relieved come nap and bed time and time to put a nappy on and relax and I'm only 3 days in so you have done sooo well.
Don't mention the incident again and if he has an accident again make sure you are very calm and just say, oh well lets get some clean pants and remember next time to try to use your potty sweetheart.