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My son will be 15 months old in 2 days. My husband put him in the crib with his fleece sleep sack bunch up by his face. I’m pretty sure he was sleeping like that for an hour. He had a mark on his face from the sleep sack when I picked him up. He’s been fine. Should I be worried about brain damage or that he couldn’t breathe!!? I made another post but I think I might of hidden it somehow. I really don’t know what to do but I can’t stop crying worrying about him. Please help!

Honestly I think you are massively over reacting. Calm down.

Bunched up by his face and covering it are two very different things.

Are you always this anxious over the baby? If so it might be worth talking to someone professional about as that level of panic is really not normal

I'm pretty sure he'll be fine. If he was uncomfortable he would have moved and if he couldn't breathe for an hour you would know something was wrong.

If he’s 15 months old, he could move if his breathing was restricted? (Unless he has medical issues that you haven’t mentioned?) The whole point of sleeping bags is they shouldn’t be able to obstruct breathing anyway, even if bunched up. I think you may be feeling unusually anxious right now, and maybe this is something to focus it on? It doesn’t sound like something that should be a real worry.

How on earth could he be brain damaged? Unless he blue and not breathing, in which case you have a different problem, he will be fine.

You need to make an urgent doctor’s appointment. For you, not for your DS. This is off the charts abnormal behaviour and you should seek some help urgently because this level of anxiety is not normal.

You are not thinking logically about this. You can only get brain damage if you are starved of oxygen. I'm saying the following in the nicest possible way to help you see this rationally - a baby wouldn't be starved of oxygen, get brain damage and then just carry on sleeping and then be fine when picked up.

Yes, parents DO worry over things, that's our job. And sometimes that worry gets blown out of proportion/we focus too much on it. This is usually due to other factors in our lives - stress, anxiety, tiredness, exhaustion. Could this be the case with you?

If this is a normal reaction for you, please go and see your DP. Your baby is fine.

Yes it very well may be the case. I am very stressed. My anxiety isn’t usually this bad. I think the hardest part is not knowing when to worry and when not to worry. I don’t have any experienced mothers to talk to and the one I do have has older children and is not that understanding. I just got afraid when I seen the pajama bunched up by his head and then when I picked him up I could see an indentation made by the sleep sacks zipper on the side of his face he was sleeping on. I don’t know what is a concern and what isn’t half the time to be honest. I never know when to care or not to care. Which makes me care to an extreme amount. Anyways, thank you ladies.

Your post made me feel better. No he does not have any medical conditions and can move, roll, stand, and pull up just fine. Thank you.

I'm confused....was he wearing the sleep sack?

No. He usually wears it to bed so it was in his crib when my husband put him down to take a nap.

Don't worry OP. Your baby will be fine. I got back from a night out when my dd was a similar age and the babysitter said she had checked my dd . She obviously didn't chk properly because dd had fallen asleep on a plastic toy and had a large indentation on her face but it had gone by morning .
As others have said you may need help for your anxiety. Its hard being a first time mum, everything is a new experience. Try and enjoy your baby, they grow so fast.

Thank you for sharing. I’ll make an appointment for sure. I almost feel bad posting these things but I have no one else to ask.

Don’t feel bad for posting. However do do something about how you feel. And try to meet some rl parents to talk to. Why don’t you give your health visitor a call and ask her to come over? Or go to one of the local clinics. If you go every week or fortnight, that would already be an anchor to help keep your anxiety levels down. Or are you not able eg working full time?

It can be so stressful OP and you won’t be the first Mum to stress about small things but maybe go easy on yourself. Your baby will be fine. Try and rest, and yes talk to your gp about anxiety. You’ll get through the early years. Also get some sleep. Sometimes this makes the stress and anxiety worse.

I do work full time and have no me time or much help. So it’s hard. I did find a local book club where moms can bring their kids and all read together. I think I’ll do that. Thank you!

Homestart may be a good option for you. They are parent befriending service and could match you up with a volunteer who could act as a parenting role model for you. You could talk through some of your anxieties as a parent and they could offer guidance.
The volunteers are parents and grandparents themselves so are experienced.

You can self refer or get your health visitor or gp to help you do it.

Hey postnatal anxiety is very common I've had it twice I've made random calls to 111 about various things and later felt silly. Anxiety can be very all consuming and harder when it relates to you baby. I'd suggest speaking to your gp maybe some talking therapies or a small dose of antidepressant could take the edge of it for you xx

DD (19 months) has slept with something bunched up against her face since she was about 3 months old - I used to remove it once she fell asleep but once she was around 10 months I just left her too it, she sleeps on her front with something snuggled into her cheek.

If he couldn't breathe, he would have moved.

Never apologise for posting! But the level of panic you displayed does need addressing for both your sake and your child's.

Good luck op!