Feeling Guilty

[xxxbabyno1]

Does anyone else feel extremely guilty when they have a night out without their wee one?

I had a night out last night while my son stayed with his Granda, I was in regular contact & he was happy as Larry (he's 9 weeks) he came home around lunch time today & I felt terrified of my dad leaving as I felt too ill to be alone with my baby.

I couldn't sleep last night when I got home as I've never been away from him before so I feel like a zombie today, hungover & so tired. His dad (my ex partner) has come over to watch him while I lay in bed. I cannot stop crying I feel so incredibly guilty - I feel like I'm not capable of looking after my own son.

Is this a normal feeling? It was my first night out & I reckon it will be my last. I just feel so low & I want this day to be over with so I feel myself again and ready to be the best mum.

My DH and I went out when our eldest was 6 months (he's nearly 18), the next morning I was in Sainsbury's car par crying my eyes out as I missed him so much. Felt better when we picked him up from his grandparents. They still had him on and off (and his brother) overnight. No you aren't a bad mother, it's a natural reaction. Believe me when he gets older, they can't wait to get you out the house !!

If you felt comfortable leaving baby then you shouldn't feel guilty. I personally would not have left a 9 week old but I didn't feel ready.

If I knew I was looking after the baby the next day I wouldn't drink enough to be hungover either, it's tiring work.

If you feel this upset maybe you aren't ready.?

There will be lots of opportunities for nights out in the future but your baby will only be tiny for a short time.

Thanks for replying ladies. I definitely wasn't ready & I'll not be leaving him for the next 5 years!

It was a family members birthday otherwise I probably wouldn't have went.
Starting to feel better after plenty cuddles x