Dd15 left out of what used to be her inseparable friends.

[AshleighSarah]

My dd15 has always had the same friends all the way through school. They’re all lovely kids, I know all the parents and the children well as they’ve danced and sung as a group since they were about 9 years old. This year, two girls who have been distant friends with one of the girls already in the group for a while started to hang around with the girls. I’m not too keen on either of these girls and neither is my dd, as they’re both very self-centred, parents let them get drunk and smoke etc. My dd is beginning to be left out by the group, as she doesn’t want to go out and drink and the other girls in the group find the two girls cool and trendy so go along with them. I can tell this upsets her, because as a mother I know her better than she knows herself, but she doesn’t tell me and just says ‘they know I’d say so anyway so they just don’t ask me anymore’. I don’t really know what I can do to help the situation, because the parents of the two girls are very distant and let them get on with it. Now, one of the girls keeps telling my dd she ‘doesn’t know where they stand’ and my dd doesn’t understand what shes done wrong for this to be the case. Has anything similar happened to any of you and did it pass once they’d left school?

I think its quite normal for friendships to change as girls get older, especially if their interests become different. This doesn't sound malicious, just that theyre growing up along different lines and arent compatible anymore. Id encourage your DD to make friends with people who share her idea of a good time.

Exactly what Really says. It's time for her to mutuel other friendships. Is there anyone she does get on with? What do they like to do?

Does she have any interests away from these girls? Would she be interested in something like Explorers?

You might also want to ask MNHQ to move your thread to the teenage section. You shoukd get some more answers in there