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My 5 & 2yo slowly killing me with lack of sleep

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Indecisivelurcher · 08/02/2020 06:28

Am I the only one whose slightly older children are slowly killing them through lack of sleep zzzzz honestly I could cry.

Dd is 5 and a bit, ds is 2yrs 9m. Dd is the worst, she can sleep through but rarely does unless heavily incentivised. She probably sleeps through one to four times a week naturally. She'll often wake up at 1:30 for an hour age has done for 2yrs now, although she's better than she was. She goes to bed at 7:30 and tends to get up about 6:30.

Last night was fairly typical, she had me up twice, once for a cough which to be fair was already doing my head in by the time she called me, then a second time about 30 mins later to say she was struggling to get back to sleep.

Ds is actually fairly solid sleeper but is set a bit early. He goes to bed between 6:30/7 and wakes at 5:30. He's good about staying in his bed until his gro clock comes on at 6am but the trouble is he passes the time by singing to himself, very loudly! I've recently stopped his nap, but it hasn't effected his getting up time.

I'm supposed to be going out for a meal with friends tonight, I've got sacks under my eyes, a headache, a permanent bad mood, and my current bedtime is 9:30.

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Thinkingaboutsummer2020 · 08/02/2020 06:30

Do you have a partner/family who can have them for you for a few hours today did you to nap? I’ve got a nap booked in with DP later 😀

Indecisivelurcher · 08/02/2020 06:34

I might be able to have a nap later. But I don't want to rely on naps anymore, they're not flippin new born :(. Why don't they just sleep, sleep is lovely!!

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Indecisivelurcher · 08/02/2020 07:02

Both kids are tired and whining too so fun day ahead.

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SS1987 · 08/02/2020 07:07

I know you won’t feel like it but definitely go out later! Don’t worry about the bags under your eyes! You need a change of scenery and some down time. Haven’t got much advice because mine is only 18 months old but id say a large glass of red might make you feel better

Waiting1987 · 08/02/2020 07:10

4 and a half year old and 2 year old here... permanently exhausted. I feel like I'm ill with sleep deprivation. I can easily be up 10 times a night between them. Sad

sandybanana · 08/02/2020 07:41

Not being funny but 6.30 is very early to go to bed. No wonder he's up at half five.

Can't you at lest move bedtimes an hour later or something.

I hear you
Have a nine and five year old so know what lack of sleep is.

Indecisivelurcher · 08/02/2020 08:40

@sandybanana, we've just dropped his nap 2 weeks ago, so he's falling asleep in his dinner at 5:30! I will gradually push his bedtime back. Nap had to go because I can't get him down now, he wouldn't go to bed, and 5:30 wake up. But unfortunately 5:30 wake up is still with us!

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Piixxiiee · 08/02/2020 08:45

Oh we were the same- what do you do when dd wakes you at night? I use to stay with her until she fell asleep.... now a quick kiss and goodnight works. Shes still not a good sleeper, but strong insistance/ bribery are working to keep her quiet and in bed- shes 6 now. As for ds he falls asleep if we dont get him to bed by 7pm but is so loud in mornings! Working on "quiet voice" ! Good luck, it does get easier. X

gaffamate · 08/02/2020 08:51

Same with my eldest (4), she is often up multiple times asking for water (which is right next to her bed Hmm) or for me to turn her audiobook on (which is voice activated and she knows how to do it Hmm)

Things that have helped are me being completely silent and non engaging when going in and talking about how much fun we can have when mummy isn't tired anymore.

Having said that I'm now tempted to take my DD to the gp or dentist as I'm convinced she had issues with mouth breathing at night which may keep her up. we've also realised that she's had a dry cough for months and months just at night and apparently it's a sign of asthma so I'm wondering if she asked because of these things too.

KingscoteStaff · 08/02/2020 12:48

Mine had naps after lunch until they went to afternoon nursery school sessions at 3 and a half. That got them through to a 7pm bedtime.

Indecisivelurcher · 08/02/2020 13:26

He won't nap consistently anymore and won't nap for me at all, better for him to have a routine I think at this point. Having said that, he's been Tatty all morning and dropped off in the car, so going to use that to go for a later bedtime tonight.

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Indecisivelurcher · 08/02/2020 13:28

Dd has gone from 2hrs wake time overnight with the whole house up, to a couple of 'check ups' normally with a few nights sleeping through most weeks. So things are improving if I look at it objectively.

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