My husband doesn’t want to have sex

[Nyssia]

We’re 45 - he today is citing Phillip schofield as an example of happy but sexually incompatible couples. Is that my future? Companionship?

Only if you let it be. It might be your husband's choice, but it doesn't have to be yours. 💐

Ask him if he's telling you he's gay?

cut his dick off, use it as a sex toy, simple as that lady

Say this was flipped around. Male OP says : my wife doesn’t want to have sex. And the reply is “cut her cunt off, and use it as a glory hole, that’s your answer mate”. How would that go down you think?

Oh god no, you've got another 40 years of no sex is that what you want? If not walk away. Resentment will build up over time

I'm 40 and fear this is my future. He swears blind he's not gay (asked him again after Philip Schofield thing 🙄. ) I think he's either asexual or just repressed so much with low drive.
But... we have a life together, kids. I dont have a proper career. We work well together day to day.... there's no guarantee Id meet someone else and if they hit the sex buttons they might not match in other ways. Sometimes it just feels the better the devil you know.

But it does feel soulless. And depressing at 40 this could be it i think finding other focuses for friendship and creativity etc is the amswer... but havent found that.

I regularly wish I hadnt got into this position.

It's only your future if you want it to be, you don't have to stay with him. Talk to him but make it clear that you will be making the decisions about if you want to split up with him, he can't choose to stay if you decide you want to leave.