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Rosie666 · 04/02/2020 16:46

Hey guys, I am new to this site, just looking for some advice. I have a 10 year old to my previous partner that I broke up with 9 years ago, i am now happily married in a solid relationship with another 2 children and one on the way. (My ex has never moved on) We are looking to move when my eldest has finished her last year at junior school, maybe about 1hour away, not too far but out of this area as we hate it. The problem is I have discussed this with ex and he basically said "no chance". He extremely flexible as he works for his self so pick ups and drop offs would never be an issue in my eyes. He has her 2 school nights a week in school time and when ever he feels like it in the holidays. He basically said I would have to keep her school over here and live where ever I like as he would not travel to collect her.. HELPPPP xx

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Jossina · 04/02/2020 17:13

What is your legal agreement? Do you have custody?

ReallyLilyReally · 04/02/2020 17:48

What is actually stopping you going apart from him saying "no chance"? Would you be willing to swap the week nights for a EO weekend?

ReallyLilyReally · 04/02/2020 17:50

Sorry, posted too soon.

An hour each way makes the school day pretty long for a 10yr old and i can see why he wouldn't want to spend an extra 8 hours in the car every week - i think switching to weekends would be a good compromise.

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Pipandmum · 04/02/2020 17:52

So you come to some arrangement. Maybe you drop her over to his (or to a halfway point) in the weeknights or he has her on alternate weekend instead. He can't dictate where you live as it's not that far away.

JuanSheetIsPlenty · 04/02/2020 17:57

If it’s only an hour away I can’t see that you would need his permission. The stumbling block comes when you need his permission for applying for schools (assuming he is on her birth certificate) and if you expect him to do any travelling for pick ups and drop offs. If you move- you should do the travelling. But is an hours journey something you want to be doing several times a week?

Rosie666 · 09/02/2020 13:50

Yes I have custody, and I did agree to meet him half way even though I shouldn't have to, to save arguments we have decide to stay :( till she is a little older, xxx

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