Mum guilt

[futuremrsconnor85]

I have a DD aged 2 years and 1 month. The mum guilt I feel is terrible at the moment. I feel guilty when I leave her to go to work, guilty all day at work and then dreading picking her up as she fights going in the car seat. Once she's in bed I relax for a couple of hours then it all starts again! I work 3 days, on my days off I feel guilty a) for not doing enough with her and b) for not being at work! It's a terrible cycle and is making me depressed. Does this ever change?

This seems like a lot more guilt than is necessary, have you thought about talking to someone about it?

I actually think this is entirely normal. I went through all of it with my first child and am now going through it all again with my second.... But FYI if you were full time working, or not working, I think the mummy guilt would remain!!!

It's the (irrational) feeling of absolutely letting everyone down, at all times, by not being able to do anything 100% properly.

I could have literally written your post word for word. I feel the same and I’m leaving her for 2 nights soon and dreading it!

It’s a horrible feeling and the only way I can deal with it is making the time I spend with her as good as I can....however she’s overtired when I get her from nursery so I can’t do anything right...so I want her to go to sleep then feel guilty for that!

I love seeing her happy and spending time with her as I’m sure you are with your LO but I still look forward to bedtime/nap time so it gives me a chance to charge my batteries so I have more energy for her.

Oh god and the carseat struggle!! I actually googled this the other day because I was worrying about it.